BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids i'm dying for help..

I need help. I'm lost of ways to settle this. I'm in love with another guy. (not my hubby) I can't get him out of my head, i can't sleep, i can't eat, i can't work. I'm crazy abt this guy. I want to spend time with guy. However, I've been married for 3 years. 2 years into marriage, i found no longer happy with my marriage. We both very busy with work, travelling, juggling with ever demanding parents etc. Our marriage no longer interest me, no passion, no real love.
My hubby confronted me and i told him abt the guy. He's heart broken but willing to forgive me and give another try. Btw-the guy is not the reason i gave my hubby cold shoulders for months. It's his attitude, vulgars words and insensitivity of my feelings.
The issue, i can't lie to my hubby that i need out. I want out but he refused to let me go. He said, "if i can't have you, no one else can." I fear for the other guy. Please, please, please help. thank you.

i feel really bad for you. from just what you posted(i could certainly be wrong)it sounds like he's being verbally abusive to you. am i right? if so then i would highly suggest getting outside help from a counselor who specializes in those things. please consider getting help. the most imp. person right now is you. i don't know what to tell you about the other guy. again seeing a counselor might help you sort out everything that is going on with you. please keep posting and let us know how you're doing.

indigo

It sounds to me like you have no clue about what marriage is and are here looking for excuses. "I gave my husband the cold shoulder for months" Nope no fault of yours here that I can read. Have an affair, don't have an affair. You need counseling all right. I'll bet you were once crazy about your husband in the same way.

Sam

You need to contact the police if your hubby has threatened you. You need to leave and go to a shelter and get help with getting out of the situation. However, it sounds like you have forgotten what is important in the relationship with your husband. You both need to reconsider what you saw in each other and rebuild the relationship if that is what you want to do you will need the help of a counselor for BOTH of you. Peace Tatting Lady

Sounds to me like an unhealthy, abusive marriage. You should seek professional outside help!