BellaOnline Forums Health and Fitness Pregnancy I need some real advice!!!!

I just don't understand, I have tryed everything, I have had sex and walked alot and I am still a 2! I only have 14 days til my origional due date and I seriously need her to come atleast 2 days earlier than that becuase my doctor is not going to be working for 2 weeks after that for thanksgiving and she is pregnant and supposedly that is when she is due, I just can't and wont let anyone but her deliver my baby, I am a very private person down there and I am used to her being down there i shouldn't hate my delivery because it is some random doctor. please what else can I do to dialate?

Whitnie, I can feel how frustrated you are, but there is really no absolute perfet way to make yourself dilate more. Your body just will not do it until the baby and your body itself, are ready.

But in the world of pregancy, 14 days is a long time, and a lot can happen in just two weeks.

Try to relax, by working yourself up stresswise, you can push up your blood pressure, and tighten muscles that need to be relaxing right now. Not good things for a healthy delivery. If it is possible, see about getting a prenatal massage. This can help relax you and loosen up some musces you may not even realize are tense right now.

Explain your concerns to your physician. Ask her if in a week you can try a cervical ripening agent like Prostaglandin. These are creams that are placed on the cervix to help soften it. But if I am not mistaken, once the doc starts you on this cream, you have to stay on monitors in the hospital. Although it has been 10 years since they did this with my daughter, so there may be better medications by this time.

But you really do not want to go too early, because it is a delicate balance between when your baby's lungs are ready. I started bleeding at 36 weeks with my last child, and they had to go ahead and let him be born. He was in the NICU for 2 weeks. It was one of the worst times of my life. He was hooked up to monitors and IVs for the entire first week, and I didn't even get to hold him for 2 days.

Although you would much rather have your own doctor for your delivery, you do not want to trade your baby's health for that.

Whitney,

Please try to relax! At 14 days prior, you are not meant to be dialating!! The day before my first was born, which was my due date, I was 0 dialated and 0 effaced and the cervix was high. The nurses all said "see you next week." 20 hours later, I had a baby! Which all means that internal checks tell you NOTHING! Frankly, they shouldn't even be doing them.. they introduce bacteria, tell us nothing, and stress mothers out.

My second birth was a homebirth (because all this kind of nonsense with my first drove me nuts and I didn't want to deal with it again) and she never did a single internal my whole pregnancy. It's just not necessary. She asked doctors once why they did them, and was told it makes mothers feel like they are doing *something* and also tells them how "induceable" you are. Ugh.

Just relax and let things be. And I know it's hard to believe now, but once you are in labor, you won't care if the whole starting line of the Dallas Cowboys are in there. Your modestly totally disappears. That's actually part of the birth process. I had a whole roomful of of doctors and interns and med students and nurses and barely noticed and definitely didn't care. As I put in another one of your threads, the doctor actually plays little to no role in your labor, and only a very small on in the delivery. Ask her.. she'll tell you. They just pop by now and then and pop in to catch the baby. The rest is with the labor and delivery nurses.

PLEASE relax and let the baby come when it is ready.

Whitnie

I have had 3 children, and will tell you that they come when they are ready, and not before. My first was born while my doctor was away, usually, the covering doctors are very good, and understand that you may be uncomfortable. Why don't you see if you can find out who will be covering for your doctor and see if you can meet with them so that at least you have met them. Good luck, let us know when she is born

Here is some real advice: quit focusing on your doctor and think of your baby. You say you can't and won't let anyone but your doctor deliver you but you could go into labor at the supermarket checkout and have a paramedic (if you are lucky!) deal with you right there and then. What matters, is that your baby is born safely and healthfully and that you are safe and healthy. That's it, nothing else.

Relax, stop thinking about getting your baby born early - its not going to happen. You are putting yourself under massive undue stress for nothing.

I have had four babies, three naturally, the first one with every intervention available and that one was a total nightmare. Don't let the medics touch you unless they have to honey, your body knows what to do, so let it get on with the business of doing it.