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What sorts of things do you and your partner do together for fun? I'm looking for some new ideas as we seem to be stagnating a bit. I'll share some of our activities in case someone else is looking for ideas too.

My hubby doesn't enjoy boardgames, so we don't do that - which means that our evenings seem to be slumped in front of the telly even if there's nothing on. But now that summer is nearly here we will pick up our evening walk around the nature reserve after dinner, so that will be good.

We tend to do the picnic and hike thing very often on weekends, which is nice, but I get a little sick of doing that every weekend. Now that we have our own house, we're fairly good at working on something together, either in the garden or painting inside, or whatever - but that feels like work after a full day of it and tends to be us doing the work in each other's company, rather than us enjoying each other's company doing an activity.

We're kinda boring, and I feel a bit bored.

hey you stole my life!!! lol and made it more interesting!!! hehehe

My husband and I watch movies on the weekends and tv during the week.... we also go over and play cards and dice with a nother family here in town....we LOVE to go eat!!!... we work on jewelry together he looms and I bead necklaces....we read books....we sleep....go for walks....we live in a very small town so.... thats about it!

now for what I would love to do....:D
read the winning lottory numbers off together...
go to Austen to pick up the money....
the travel the world

Great topic! My DH and I went through a year in our marriage where we realized we'd become disconnected, and needed to get some excitement going again. (this was before kids, we were just both quite involved in our work and drifted apart). Here are some things we did:

1. Took a massage class together. I would HIGHLY recommend this! It was terrific! Not only are you learning about good massage technique, and possibly learning about your partner's physical self in a new way, it feels great whether giving or receiving We enjoyed it so much that we actually invested in an adjusting massage table (I am short, DH is tall). It is also something that can be done at home, and even if you just have a short time, as has been the case since we now have 2 young kids. Plus you can make it romantic, relaxing, whatever with music, candles, oils ... you can get into some fooling around or lull your SO into sleep ... I can't say enough about how great we have found that addition to our lives.

2. "Adventures" - we would pick one weekend a month, and take turns planning an "adventure" with a certain budget - something that you've always been curious about trying, etc. We didn't do anything too crazy - tried cross-country skiing, day trips, whatever - but it was fun either to be planning or to be wondering about where we were going and what we would be doing.

Some other things we've done in the course of our 12+ years together include ballroom dancing, learning to run, working out, as well as "dates" like going out to dinner, plays, movies, etc. It's not like we do this all at once, just taht for a phase of our lives we did some biking ... then we had the opportunity to do some travelling (and got hooked on that) ... then we both wanted to get in shape ... etc.

If you can find a good deal, travel can be a great way to re-connect and find new passions too. We've taken last-minute cruises and end-of-season prices for places like Portugal ... ah wonderful memories. I tend to drag DH to museums and creepy places (catacombs, etc) and he tends to drag me shopping and to cafes, to sit and watch the world go by.

I hope there's something int here to give you ideas about what would suit you & your DH best. It *is* possible to get through the kinda-bored stage - we hit it at about 5 years married - since then life has generally just gotten better I look forward to seeing other responses to get some more ideas for us too!

All the best,

Andie

Oh I think I found some realy great Ideas!!!

I am a massage therapist so I also know all about the massage table and the fun side of massage..... my husband LOVE TO get the massage and he tries to give them which is just as fun for me but he feels self concous I tell him he should not be but....

We watch television together and we play Mario Party on the Gamecube together.

That is fun because we try to trip each other up in the game as well as the computer players.

She also hates me for getting her into pro wrestling. lol.

We enjoy sharing a bottle of wine,
eating out,
renovating old houses,
hunting for antiques,
travelling,
spending a couple of hours at a day spa (for a massage)
the country races,
wine tasting weekends and wine dinners,
walking,
watching movies,
hosting dinner parties
and curling up with our cats!

This is all great! I'm taking notes

We walk together too when the weather permits. We do our errands together. We take the baby to the playground. We go to the beach, zoo, etc.

You would not believe just the other day I had this EXACT conversation with hubby! I've been wanting to do more things together because for the most part we watch tv in the evenings. We do go visit some friends once or twice a week, but again it's really just going to another house and watching tv there or just chit chatting with a couple of friends. Here and there we go to/host parties. Occasionally go to the movies. We do mini vacations (camping etc) once or twice in the summer. We enjoy the picnic thing too as well as playing frisbee in the park, bocce ball, going to the beach on a nice day. But these are all things that dont normally happen. We go out for dinner and stuff like that too, but neither of us have any hobbies really. Im kind of artsy/crafty, and he enjoys computer games but other than that our day to day life consists of work, house work, tv, cuddling etc. We do enjoy spending a lot of time relaxing, cuddling on the couch, movies etc... but to be honest its getting to be too much in my opinion. The problem is, HE is enjoying doing that right now, because work for him is a little stressful so he isn't really into doing anything else right now. Meanwhile, Im bored alot lol... I mean there's always something to do, but I would really really love to find some hobbies/interests/activities SOMETHING that we DO together regularly. Ive suggested massage classes, working out, cooking classes, pottery and other types of courses/classes etc. But his problem with that is the fact that they all cost money, and he doesnt really like to spend especially considering the fact that we are in the midst of saving to buy our first place. So that's my situation... Im not sure what to do either...

I hope that didn't sound too awful... we have soooo much fun playing around, laughing, being silly etc we have a wonderful relationship but really dont share much in the way of hobbies and whatnot.

Here are two my hubby suggested today: getting me a bicycle and teaching me to ride (LOL) and going kayacking together. Summer's coming soon so it will be great to get out and do active stuff together.

Squash and tennis are also fun to do together (I haven't been able to find open courts near us though). Squash more so, because you are close enough to chat while you're playing.