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Congratulations on your courage and honour, Terrence. It's going to be tough for a little while, but it definitely is a case of short term pain for long term gain. It is a brave person who doesn't just give in to avoid the tough decision.

I hope you feel better soon. Be happy that you were self aware and mature enough to make the decision that is best for both of you. Some people aren't as lucky and end up in far worse positions.

Sometime later on, she'll find the Daddy-to-be she wants and you'll find the fun, interesting CF lady who is perfect for you.

Terrence, I think you've made the right decision.
It's a difficult time....look after yourself.

Thank you one and all for your encoragement and kind words ! It means an awful lot. There are for more many more difficult problems in our own lives than this. It just seems when it happens in one's own little world it's paramount to anything else going on.

I just thought about this the other day. Isn't it ironic how the arrival of a person who doesn't even exist yet in any way shape or form....even the potential arrival of a newborn stranger.....can totally screw up a loving relationship between two people who have years of life lived?

"There are for more many more ....." Nice sentence structure Terrence !!!! lol. You know what I mean .....

Precisely what my best GF said when I told her about my breakup - "damn kids screw up everything, even when you don't have them!!"

Terrence, hang in there and remember there are TONS of women out there who would be thrilled to share your childfree lifestyle. What you are going through is my greatest fear, so I sympathize with you completely. My thoughts are with you...I went through a very rough breakup a couple of years ago and my best advice is to rekindle old friendships and get out there and party. You only live once!! Best wishes.

I'm sorry. You'll meet someone who better fits you though. It's better that you broke up now than to be unhappy for the rest of your life. Maybe there is a childfree singles group in your area? It could be worth just looking at. Otherwise I say go party as well. I'd probably also have a shopping spree on expensive breakable items that you can't really have with a kid. Be that electronics or whatever.

Terrence, I'm very sorry to hear about this especially since it sounds like other aspects of the relationship were good. But how courageous and noble it is to be able to walk away. Children are probably the most important issue when it comes to a relationship. You understandably have a lot of heartbreak right now, but at least you're saved from poisonous resentment later on. All the best!

I've read that the two main causes of divorce in the US are children and money. It pays to deal with these issues before you tie the knot, even if resolution means walking away.

Sometimes wisdom weighs more than emotion. Sometimes it simply must.