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The Hardest day of my life was the day I stood by my sons deathbed and watched him take his last breath. He had been diagnoised with cancer and we knew this day was coming. Even so, it did not ease the pain what so ever. Never shall I ever feel such deep pain, I do hope and pray.
His ashes are to be scattered in the ocean on Nov 3, so another day of sorrow. I amnot sure why I have written this, except, to maybe telling others helps me to face what is to come.

Sharon my heart and my prayers go out to you and your family. My son was killed when he was just 13 years old. That was 22yrs ago. There are certain days and holidays that are always hard to get through. Give yourself the time to heal,, no matter how long it takes. And don't let anyone take your grieving away from you. God bless you.

Hello, ladies. My son, Anthony, died 10 years ago. He was eleven years old. Like you, I think about him every day and some days are more difficult than others. I remember going to my first "grief group" listening to a woman speak of her five year anniversary without her son thinking that I would never survive that long. And here I am. You'll be fine. One thing that always helped me was to remember that I am still Anthony's mother and I still try and set a good example for him. God Bless.

I am new to this site..
today my 52 year old son passed away..he gave a good fight..he had 5% chance last Feb. 1st..he had Leukemia..did the whole thing..chem o, radiation and bone marrow transplant.Then Small Cell carcinoma reared it's ugly head last month. He had (has) a beautiful wife of 27 years who was at his side 24/7 and then had to try to work part time to keep her job and insurance.
To top this off..my husband passed Oct. 2006. He had been ill for some time. He had every test they could come up with and he hung on until he was down from 165 pounds to 70 pounds. He also had the Small cell Cancer. He was a 21 year Navy Retired chief and 8 years of that was with the Marine corps as their Corpsman (Doc) He survived the Korean Was and Vietnam.
HOW do I cope with the loss of half my family??? I have one other son who is 35 and of course my daughter in law and two grandsons..19 and 23.
I just feel numb.........
Marge

Marge, im so sorry for your lost. ladies its not easy by no means. and don't let any one tell you to get on with your life, if your grief is interfering with your health or your emotions get some help some time you need some one out side of the family to talk to.
good luck to all of yous

I agree with skyhaven that anyone who has suffered such a loss needs to talk. I have a friend who bottled up her grief for a while, both during her child's illness and then after the loss and she began to suffer physically. Her doctor (bless her!) recognized that grief counseling would help her spirit as well as her body and made that recommendation. What a blessing that was!