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Okay, my cousin and best friend in life just got married last month. While they do want kids eventually, she is definitely looking forward to a couple of kid-free married years.

But...guess what's late? She had to stop taking the pill (it was making her sick) and even though they've been careful...

She is totally freaking, even though she's trying to hide the freak out from her hubby. She was late last week, and she hasn't gotten up the courage to take "the test".

Obviously, I love the fact that she's CF "for now" because her and her husband are the primary couple we hang out with. I guess I just need some advice on how to respond if she ends up being...(I can't even say it!!!) I have to hide my own secret disappointment, but I will definitely have to comfort her as well. I know she wants children (her husband would be so happy to have them now, but that's a different story) but I know she'll be devastated to be PG right now.

ARRGH!!!

I hope it works out whatever happens but I do have to say that I can't imagine being sick enough to stop taking birth control pills. On one hand you have the sickness of pregnancy, on the other you have the sickness of the pill...no contest in my mind. I can't tell you how many stories I have heard just like it.

Be supportive to your cousin who is your best friend. It is very fortunate for their relationship that her hubby will be happy. There are pros and cons to every marriage situation, but friends are hard to replace, so keep up a strong chin for her.

i agree that your cousin is going to need a lot of support. i just found out last month that one of my BFF was pregnant and although i also had mixed feelings about it i'm trying very hard to be there for her. it's her first and they have just been married a year. if it wasn't that my friend is already 34 i know she would have waited but still i thought that i would have had at least another year to hang out with them. i just talked to my other friend who is her sister. she told me that she's already experiencing bad morning sickness and is freaking out about the labor. she wants my friend to be there but she said she knows how tough it is(she has two of her own) so she probably won't. anyway, i know it's going to be tough for my friend being pregnant so i want to be there for her. however, i'm also starting to hang out with other people who don't have children and trying to expand my social circle. if your cousin is pregnant be there for her but also i would recommend finding other people as well to hang out with. i know that we'll still be close but also that it's going to change. when my other friend got pregnant 5 yrs. ago i have to say i didn't handle it too well.i really freaked out and got really anxious about everything.it was really tough.i wish back then i would have found this forum. i'm trying not do that again.

i found that reading the articles by kim on how to handle a friend being pregnant has really helped me. i would also recommend reading that.

believe me a lot of us have been in your shoes and we really do understand.

indigo

Try reading these articles:

When Friends Get Pregnant
Have you ever felt happy AND sad when a friend announces she�s expecting? Do you find yourself faking a smile and worried about the future of your friendship? You�re not alone.
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