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I just got an email from an old friend who is pregnant. She emailed everyone in her address book a scan of her ultrasound and a few details.

And then last night my husband saw his sister and she was telling "hilarious" stories about her husband's antics at the doctor's office.

I said this is another reason that we're never getting pregnant. I am not discussing my doctor's visits with ANYONE.

My husband is sure that when his sister and I reconcile she'll tell me all the hilarious stories. Yeah, that's okay. I'd rather not hear it.

I get told great stories about breast pumps.........

Every gory story I hear is affirmation of my CF choice. It feels good!

Especially the stories about going into debt, and the loss of romance with your husband........

I think it is a fun (and morbid) act of humor to go through my weekends, every now and then, to think to myself, and/or talk to my wife about it, how we could NOT be doing what we are doing together, if we had kids with us.

It truly validates our choice to be CF to be reminded of our gift to ourselves -- which is ourselves, the relationship between my wife and myself, and the peace we have. Ultimately, that is what it is all about -- being happy with each other, damned what society says!

LOL i had to laugh at the breast pumps comment...i had the good luck to work labor and delivery for two years, and I don't know how many times I wanted to take a baseball bat to one of those things.


Skeeter

I think some of those morbid (sad) stories are ways that they laugh at themselves so they won't cry. I personally don't think the loss of my sex life with my hubby would be funny. I would cry over that.

I was telling my husband how if we had kids I couldn't have been able to lay around on the couch all weekend. He looked at me all strangely and said, "I know some of your friends have deadbeat husbands, but I would do my part."

How do you tell your husband how laughable that is when he can't even take out the garbage?

Not to mention that if soccer games or gymnastics competitions got in the way of his precious Bears game, he'd probably be all ticked off?

you are so right!
Ive just been recalling my weekend of bliss while parent friends told me:
-they spent 1/2 a day looking for childs clothes
-sunday taking little whatsit to ballet
-hosted whatsits bithday party with 10 other screamers
etc, etc

We had coffees, lunches, lye ins, meals and romance instead!
Lise

I know a girl whose husband doesn't do anything. She ends up sitting in gymnastics meets for 8 hours and then the next day spends the day taking both kids to their respective soccer practices or games. She never has a weekend to herself.

And even if my husband helped out, of course I'd go to all those events, so I still wouldn't have a weekend to myself, right?