BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Having kids is SO COOL!!

especially if that ONE PERSON is the MOTHER!

I believe that the woman and only the woman is the one to decide to become pregnant. No disrespect to wonderful husbands out there, but the fetus does not live inside of them for 9 months.

It is people like Mrs. "So Cooool" that make me shake my head and think that society has been truly dumbed down to the lowest common denominator. I can't understand the logic process behind Mrs. "So Cooool"'s thoughts, or lack thereof.

I just don't get it.

GGgrrrrrrrrrrrr.....

"Maybe in her case, misery loves company...

I have a daughter and I love her to bits but I don't make the assumption that everyone in the world is going to feel the same way about it.

How presumptious to say that too someone."

Lisa_Orlando I WISH there were more parents like you!!! Or maybe what I mean is I wish I KNEW more parents like you!

See, this is like how being childfree is for me. I would NEVER say to someone that just because I and my husband LOVE being childfree and it's right for US that it is therefore right for EVERYBODY! And that everyone should be childfree.
So WHY do (some!) parents think that just because being a parent is right for them and makes them happy that it MUST be right for EVERYBODY?!
We are NOT all the same and that's OK. We don't all want the same things!
For e.g.
I LOVE to travel but my ex was SO NOT into even the IDEA of travelling cos he was happy where he was! And good for HIM! That's HIS life, HIS choice, HIS preferences!
What may be "so cool" for HER
may NOT be "so cool" for ME!
A lot of people love bungy jumping and yet for me I think hell would have to freeze over first! And yet I've flown a plane (for five minutes) and can't WAIT to do it again. And yet, some people won't even go ON a plane! We're all different WHY can't people GET that!! DOH!

I agree to a point with what your saying however the 9 month pregnancy is WAY easier then what comes after. I will spare you the details but raising them is alot harder AND I was on bed rest for the last trimester. I lost so much weight during the first trimester I was almost frantic that my throwing up was going to harm the baby.

So Mrs "Soooo Cool" came in with hubby and kid today to the office. He was playing with the computer and she playfully slapped him and told him over and over that he was breaking everything. I know she was just goofing around, but it actually shocked me. I said, "what are you teaching your kid?" But in a joking manner. But still, I couldn't believe that. He's THREE.

Later he was running around crawling on the counters and stuff. I told her (again, jokingly, because she is my friend) "I can't believe you're letting him act like this."

He went in the back and grabbed a bunch of candy. She said no. He still got it. She said, "oh, well, he doesn't listen." I said, "why don't you try slapping him again?"

She was laughing at me, but I actually was serious, though I didn't want her to get offended. I just couldn't believe that she was letting him act like that, and that she slapped him, and that she kept telling him he was breaking everything. What kind of message does that send to a kid?

At one point she was complaining about him and getting really exasperated. I said, "do you still think it's sooooo cool?" She had no idea what I was talking about, so I laughed it off.

I feel very firmly that if your child can't behave in an appropriate manner in a given circumstance, then don't put the child in that circumstance. Its that simple.

He clearly can't behave in a work environment and he should not be there.

I fear for the society that will have that generation of Bratneys that will be voting for people that will give into their future Bratney demands.

We're doomed.