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Every week a new study appears about pitfalls of loneliness. Happy couples have longer and happier life. I am also a very lonely person and find Bella gives me some relief.

we all need a person sleeping next to us. Can we discuss some ideas about how to date?

Lonlines affects badly. My sexual starvation for more than 7 years is practically killing me. These are body instincts and mind can not so easily control them.

cd, i have also have been alone for 7yrs, I can relate to your loneliness, holidays and special days are extremely hard. Tomorrow Sept 22nd would of been her 55th birthday. i think of her often and miss her so much. I am glad i have family, but even that doesn't take away the void in my life. i wish you happiness, in your life

Rosie, I can understand your pain.

I have been alone since my husband left in 2002, although I was lonely before he left because he was so distant.

I haven't been involved at all in that time. Frankly after what I went through with him I am more then a little gun shy. I do miss contact with the opposite sex. I miss things like holding hands, watching TV together, going for walks, of course sex. I miss the companionship.

I sleep in a king size bed, it would be nice to have someone there with me.

Me too.

I have also tried to find someone again. I miss sex, but i miss intimacy far more, and i don't want sexual involvement without intimacy. I want someone who is my best friend as well as lover.

I have not been able to find someone i can truly connect with who is available. Dating people without intelligence and education is very blah though sometimes funny. Then, too, they have to be a warm person, and positive. I meet so many people who are cold and selfish, or bitter. Or all three. Prejudiced, too.

So for me the main obstruction is finding anyone even close to what i am looking for. It has caused me to try to settle with people i can't be in love with, for lack of anything better. I try hard, but that doesn't work either.

I have no one to dream about, except in the past. And that is heartbreak.

Some doctors suggest that one should have sex with a decent person at some intervals to satisfy the body. But I could never dream of touching anyone except Deepali.

I am old fashioned that way and would not even shake hands with any lady. My touch is confined to my mother and Deepali. The warmth of her body and the feeling of love calls me to to the past frequently.

well, what are we going to do about all this?

I have a question here. Does not lack of sex affect mind and body?

I'm sure that it does but I don't believe in having sex with just anyone. I masturbate but I can't go out and just sleep around, its not in my nature.

FOR ME, a relationship is about alot more then just the sex.