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I have found that pushing or fighting personal demons often backfires on me, and that it is better for me to make allies of them if i can.
My sleep is an example. Fighting sleeping does not work, yet still sometimes i try.
When i tried to push my way through creative blocks, it did not work. When instead i worked with the block, it did. (Hard to explain that one.)
Pushing myself too hard to advance through fears also does not work for me... it overwhelms me and i collapse. But if i go slowly and try to encorporate fear as excitement or get used to it, it goes better, and i can progress.
Holly, listen carefully, We are all very afraid of our fears. we hate ourselves for that. We feel helpless and guilty. But that approach is wrong. we are all products of genes and upbringing. We have to suffer from few things. rather than feeling guilty , we should accept that we are human and mistake repeatedly. pamper yourself and love yourself. Most of your fears and guilt will slowly go away.
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Earlier I used to curse myself for all the trouble. Now a days i pamper myself and say- I know that you are having a hard time. Relax, you are human. relax.
that changes my mood. Or I imagine my wife pampering me.
i have decided that I will never forget that I am precious for whatever I am.
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 You are precious. You are to me and many people. I see what you mean. I am critical of myself when i am very afraid. This also, i think... is trying to fight a demon... the demon Fear. It is sort of like a Chinese finger puzzle, isn't it? The more you struggle, the tighter it gets. When you do not struggle, you are free.
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I am right now under tremendous pressure to work , but I am not able to. I do not blame myself, but Understand why that is happening. Self blames are very bad.
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Wolf
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Always remember- 
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Also, remember this -  Trish
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To break the chain of self blame we need to act... to take the RIGHT action... whether it is to take time to heal, make amends, improve our self, commit, apologize, or forgive ourselves. I'm thinking that when we are blaming ourselves we probably do not have the right direction yet, of our thoughts or actions.
Comments, anyone?
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True. At the same time remember that we are humans and we will err again. Better to laugh at our blunders than carry guilt.
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Yes.
A few days ago i had an argument with one of my friends. I showed temper, which i do so rarely. For two days i felt RIGHT... hahahaha. But last night i realized i was unfair to him and i created the argument, so i apologized. Now i feel better.
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