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Check this article out! MSN.com

Enough said!

What bothers me about that article is that it fails to mention that the Elizabeth Davis is no anomaly. Similar circumstances are the primary reason our history is full of "died in child-bed" stories: Massive blood loss for no apparent reason.

I just don't understand how modern medicine managed to convince so many people in just a few decades that child bearing is safe! It really isn't. Medicine may have upped the odds for moms-to-be in some ways, but the (frighteningly natural!) danger of bleeding to death can't be circumvented completely.

Sadly, the friend I'm going to visit in the UK next week just miscarried at 8mos and nearly bled to death. She is 42, obese, and had her first baby a year ago via c-section. I wonder how much those things factor in to her hemmorhaging and miscarriage. I can't believe it would be unrelated. It's very frightening. And I just don't relate to wanting a baby badly enough to risk my life for it.

Over the past 5 years or so at work, I have watched 9 pregnancies occurr. Here are the stats(excuse any medical term misspellings):

2 cases of Placenta Previa
1 Uterine Hemmorage (she ended up in ICU in a coma. Thank God she came out of it OK)
1 case of preeclampsia
1 case gestational diabetes
2 cases of dehydration from vomiting during the entire pregnancies, which required IV fluids 2x a week

Not good stats. Needless to say, very good reason to not want to try my odds.

Is Placenta Previa when the placenta ruptures? That happened to my coworker's daughter late in term, she lost the baby and was in danger herself. The baby was far enough along that a full funeral was required, which the family couldn't really afford, so my coworker paid for her stillborn grandbaby's funeral. Very sad.

I also know of another woman, who was a good friend of another friend of mine, who died of sudden onset preeclampsia, along with her baby. Nope, doesn't sound like something I want to try either.

Cindy

My then best friend apparently nearly died giving birth. She was about 20 then and I think her blood pressure got dangerously high during labour and nearly killed her. She's alright now but I'm just saying!

My sister hemorrhaged. After her second baby, who was born a month ago via c-section, she developed an infection. She has a blood clot or something the size of an egg in her abdomen. The doctors told her it's nothing to worry about and gave her antibiotics. I told her to get a second opinion. You could see it sticking out of her! I told she should get an x-ray and see if they left something in her there! Maybe I'll call her and see how she's doing.

my husband's co-worker is 39 and is due in oct. she has two kids already but this pregnancy has been very difficult for her. i wouldn't be surprised if she has to take a leave of absence anyday now. she got remarried last year and they wanted to have a baby"together". i told my husband i just don't get that esp. given her age.i mean why was it necessary to have another child and have her risk her health and possibly her baby's? from everything that i've read no matter how many times you read about how this and that person has kids later in life it's still a lot more dangerous after 35. even when i thought about having kids years ago it was always going to be through adoption b/c the thought of being pregnant repulsed and terrified me to be honest!


indigo