The conversation drifted to the topic of 2 of my hubby's friends. They both were also married and each had a kid after less than one year of marriage, and had houses. Neither one finished college. What flies out of my MIL's mouth? "Now look at Mike and Bill. They have homes and kids. When are you going to have a life?"
Ooh, this would make me SOOO mad. And the irony is, you and your DH are being responsible, which is what people are always saying CFs aren't. But being a parent automatically makes someone a responsible adult - NOT! That's the myth, not the reality. In my mind, she should have been congratulating you on waiting until if or when you were ready to have kids.
I will never understand why some people elevate having kids over education. In my circles, we are really into bettering ourselves. And I'm just not that impressed when someone merely has a child.
AND, what kind of parent is someone going to be if they can't even manage their finances? I'm really conservative with spending, and I learned that from my Dad. I get really anxious about making major life purchases, and have to keep a huge next egg at all times. They say money is one of the most common things couples fight over, especially a lack of funds. Add a screaming baby to the mix, and you have a hot mess. No thanks!
