I am finding out that being a step parent is one of the hardest things I have done in my life. I have a 22 yr.old step daughter who lives with us and 32 yr. old and 30 yr. who had their own lives and families. I have 3 adult children of my own who had their own lives and families. Sometimes it is hard juggling family commitments; but so far we are doing ok. We've had our ups and downs; my middle son didn't accept my now husband too well. What made it easier..he did not live with us. But, 2 years later, he now sees that I am happy and content. I think the biggest issue with all of them is change.
The 22 yr. old is the most challenging..her mom died when she was 14 and since then everyone including me at times has made excuses for her. I didn' want to uproot her from home, so I moved in here..bad mistake on my part. I am a little tougher than my hubby. When I had enough,,,I had enough...and I still did not make her move out. I would't want my hubby to do that to my child. But, what I have done is set my boundaries and stick to them.
But, to put a 17 yr. old in harms way..is not the right thing to do. I agree,,there are many resources and people do understand and have been thru the same things. You are not alone.
Sundancer
www.msgembroidery.com