This is what I think, having a two and three year old! First of all, a two year old probably doesn't have a great sense of empathy yet. But, it's important to start teaching it, and he needs to be able to predict with accuracy what will happen when he does this type of behavior. Consistency is a great and helpful thing! Research has shown that when it comes to teaching a child about empathy especially when they have hurt others, it is important to give the child an explanation as to why the behavior is hurtful and to give suggestions on how to make the other person feel better. Distracting the child is most definitely counter productive and it is not fair to the child that was hurt, as you should never allow your child to hurt another child. I have always heard that it is very important to encourage prosocial behavior and a good tip is to focus on when the child does something that makes someone else feel good. However, I once read that if your child exhibits a behavior such as sharing that you are proud of, praise them in a way that the focus is on the other child, otherwise they will continue the behavior to please you instead of the other child (so when you aren't around they may not be as likely to share as when you are watching). When one of my daughters does something nice for the other, I explain how nice that is because it makes the other daughter feel good. When one is mean to the other, I explain that "we don't act like that" and why, and how it makes the other feel, and if she continues to act that way, she won't get to play. If it happens again, they are no longer allowed to play. I hope that helps!
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