BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Hi everybody!

Hello! My name is Jenny and I am a brand new member as of a few hours ago. I have to admit, I've been lurking about for about 3 weeks, reading everything after I happily discovered this site, and I thought it would be fun to hear from like-minded people. I have never navigated a forum before, so everything is brand new to me.

A little about myself:
I just got married in February to my sweetie Mark after 4 years of dating. I told him on our first date that I was not interested in having children and he wasn't either!! I was so excited to meet a man who was single, but wanted to be married, and didn't want to be a parent. I was 31 and he was 39 at the time, so I hope that helps someone out there realize that those kind of men are out there!
I teach kindergarten in the inner city of Milwaukee and I needed this forum because for the last 5 years I have been teaching, I really get a lot of grief from nosy co-workers who say "it will be different when they're your own" and "you'll change your mind." This forum is such a godsend to help deal with that garbage.
Well, anyway, I hope to hear from a lot of you and please, introduce yourselves!
Jenny

Welcome, Jenny!

Hi Myrabeth!

Welcome! I taught high and middle school for seven years....that really 'cured' me!! Ha ha!

Hi Jenny, and welcome!

My brief synopsis: I'm almost 34, married not quite 10 months, I'm a biologist and DH is an engineer. We're not 100% sure we're CF yet but are definitely leaning that way. This forum has been wonderful!

Hi Jenny!

I'm Angela, I live in Dallas, and I'm 36. Been married and divorced but no kids (praise to all that is holy). I'm currently dating a wonderful man who is nearly 16 years older than me (his kids are grown), and we have such a wonderful time together.

I never knew I would make a conscious decision to not have kids, but that's in fact what I've done in the last two years. I'm definitely selfish with my time, and I get impatient if even my CAT wants too much of my attention, as indicated by a few gentile rubs and loud meows (I've locked her out of my room for lesser crimes). I so take for granted the fact that I can just go and do whenever I please - I don't even think about it until I see so many people tied down by children. I can go for happy hour, I can stay out late, I can catch a movie or dinner on the fly with a friend after work, and I can sleep in every...single...weekend.

But I think the one thing that really cinched the deal for my decision is the mere thought that my child, after years of sacrifice and the best parenting I could give, could hurt me emotionally in ways it may not even understand -- when they disrespect you, blow you off, slam a door, hate you for disciplining them -- I could never deal with that; it would tear my very core.

I'm very happy with my life. I get a big charge out of planning new stuff all the time and find new ways to enhance my life.

Welcome to the forum!

Hi pmo,
Yeah, after teaching 30 5 yr olds every year for the last ten years, I can definitely relate to the fact that a lot of teachers do not have children!! I love coming home to a quiet place. My husband usually gets home after 10pm, so I really do have some time to myself after work. And I can indulge in those after school naps that I have done my whole teaching career! If kids who aren't mine knock me out, I can't imagine having my own biting at my ankles when I get in the door! Ick. Thanks for saying hi and telling me about yourself!

I wanted to thank everyone who has welcomed me to the forum and for telling me about yourselves!! I'm very excited to be sharing thoughts with you and hearing what everyone has to say!
Jenny

Welcome Jenny! You sound like you will fit in around here. I'm so glad you found a CF guy. So many guys seem to buy into the brainwashing of our culture, and they have no idea what it means to be a parent. That's why, IMO, so many of them run for the hills or start cheating when their blessed child is born.

I will be 36 in September, and have never wanted children. I have an adorable nephew that I'm crazy about, but I still don't want one of my own. It's completely different, and I enjoy being an aunt.

I also told my DH2B very early on that I would not have kids. He was cool with it, and is getting a vasectomy this month. We've talked about it at great length, and we are on the same page. Can I just say Thank God!

Hang in there - I know the nosey questions can get really annoying and trying. No one knows you like you know yourself, and just stay true to who you are. Don't believe the hype!

Welcome Jenny! You sound like you will fit in around here. I'm so glad you found a CF guy. So many guys seem to buy into the brainwashing of our culture, and they have no idea what it means to be a parent. That's why, IMO, so many of them run for the hills or start cheating when their blessed child is born.

I will be 36 in September, and have never wanted children. I have an adorable nephew that I'm crazy about, but I still don't want one of my own. It's completely different, and I enjoy being an aunt.

I also told my DH2B very early on that I would not have kids. He was cool with it, and is getting a vasectomy this month. We've talked about it at great length, and we are on the same page. Can I just say Thank God!

Hang in there - I know the nosey questions can get really annoying and trying. No one knows you like you know yourself, and just stay true to who you are. Don't believe the hype!