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I've been having dreams lately that dh and I have a baby. It's really weird since dh and I don't want children, but for the last 4 days I've dreamed I've either been pregnant or had a baby. Dh is in the army and whenever we get the news of an upcoming deployment, I always seem to get these dreams. The first deployment I had them, the second deployment I had them and now with this third one I've been having them again. Can someone help me out with this?

Dear Minders,
There's a neat article in the Bella dreams dictionary that our editor of this forum wrote about pregnancy in dreams.
Because you seem to have these dreams with every deployment I would agree with you that it's likely to reflect how you are feeling about that. You are an army wife and well know that separations are part of the life. Pregnancy usually carries with it both a sense of something new starting that will change your life (often that's perceived as a good thing) but I think too that there's a sense of vulnerability too. Our partners usually consider us more "precious" somehow and look after us a little more diligently. In some ways, it also cements the bond between the parents.
Could it be that when dh is going to be deployed you feel a deep wish to really intensify that bond between you during your time apart? Do you maybe feel a little more vulnerable and maybe even a little needy when you know dh will be away from you for a while? Or maybe it's not so much about your vulnerability as his. Could it be you feel you wish you could take care of him like a mother and child when you know you won't be able to keep him safe? Interesting dream and I'm sure we'd be interested in knowing whether any of this clicks. Meanwhile check out Aisling's write up on pregnancy in the bella dream dictionary. Good luck!

Dear Minders,

I just wanted to tell you that you aren't alone. I'm not technically an army wife, but I'm a civilian army contractors wife and have to deal with separations, sudden moves and the constant feeling of not having a permanent, predictable tomorrow. While I do not dream of birth, I do dream of death everytime he receives a new assignment, or has to leave for an extended period, etc. I'm wondering if that isn't just our differences in our thinking being expressed in our dreams. I view each new move/assignment as a negative-like the end to an era so to speak, and dread how what comes next for him might affect our relationship and my life. Maybe that you dream of birth is a good thing, and in your subconscious mind, each new scenario is the "birth" of a new phase of life for you and dh. While that phase is new and vulnerable, you have the ability to nurture and shape that life positively together. Just a thought, but more than anything, I wanted to let you know that there are many other "army" wives out there who have a strong reaction to the constant change and uncertainty and don't just take it in stride. Blessings, Annie

Very cool insight Dutchannie! T

Thank you both so much for the insight. It made a lot of sense. He is usually gone anywhere from 12-15 months at a time, so I feel like the bond we have with each other is more fragile during that time. Maybe because we're not able to nurture our relationship like we can when he is home. It's hard not to drift away from each other when he is gone. We both change a lot and we've been able to make it back to each other so far. The mother protection suggestion makes sense. I hope that doesn't mean I want to be his mom, because I don't. I'll definitely read those articles.

Dutchannie, thank you for the encouragement. I really appreciated it . Your guy is gone a lot too, and that has to be rough.

LOL! You are so right. Most men don't find their mother sexy!

I don't know how army wives do it. My husband and I find it tough to get through a week when I am working away from home. We just both do better together. Families definitely serve as well as their enlisted folk. Hugs to you both

A good idea to help you try to understand your dreams is to think about them when you wake up. Free associate, and let your mind just drift. You may be surprised where your mind goes after thinking about your dream, but very often it can point you to some helpful clues.