Hi,
I've just been thinking/obsessing about some of the conversations that took place at the family reunion last weekend. I have the tendency to do that.
Anyway, my aunt is like 60 and hasn't "worked" in a few years, but she has been very active in caring for her grandson that lives very close by. She said that people are incredulous that she doesn't work. And she said "I'm still a person."
This is the same woman that was telling me how her daughter would roll her eyes when she (my aunt) asked about grandchildren, and then several years later her daughter had a son. She was basically telling me that this might be my fate, too. The fact that she asked her daughter about kids is annoying in itself. My Mom has a lot of faults, but she NEVER bugs me about this. Plus, my Mom knows how I feel about kids, and she leaves it alone. My Mom also never bugged me about getting married, ever!
I should have said, "I'm a person, too" when she started this conversation. My point is this - why is it okay for her to not work, but not okay for me not to have a baby? Aren't we all allowed to decide what is right for ourselves?
And my aunt is a lot more together than my Mom (her sister.) She's always bragging about her daughters and it's a little annoying. They are relatively successful, as are their husbands. She was talking about how lucky she is, and everything. Okay, cool, so having a bunch of grandkids makes you happy. Why can't you let me define my own happiness? I'm really happy, too. It does bug me that my Mom never raves on and on about how wonderful I am like my aunt does. My one sister and I are doing well - it's just the youngest that is a complete trainwreck.
Sorry for rambling, I'm just annoyed...
Last edited by happytobechildfree; 07/03/07 03:37 PM.