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For most of my twenties (i am currently 24) i have been single. Now, after a long time without a steady relationship, I have a boyfriend. After much time anxiously waiting to be in a relationship I met my current boyfirend, but something just doesn't feel right and things are not going so well as I had expected. I don't know if in my mind I had an idealized relationship or maybe those Hollywood movies finally caught up to me, but I don't think I feel about him like I have for any of my past boyfriends. I contrast to the one's in my past, he "seems" to be...hmmm what's the word?... i guess more of what i was expecting in a person. He seems to have every mayor quality that I would hope to find in a guy, but I'm not quite feeling that this is the guy I would like to spend the rest if my life with. I know it's kind of early to be thinking about it, but isn't that the point of a relationship??
Well, our relationship has not been great since the beginning mostly because he was very jealous, and in the four months we've been together he has almost left me about four times...He's a great guy, but i almost once every month? Come on, it's exasperating!! Why? I can resume them in in a couple just,of words, BECAUSE OF HIS INSECURITY!! It's tiresome, and i just don't know if I can put up with having these almost breakup discussions every month, with his insecurities, and with him making me feel like I have serious problems, when honest to God I don't have mayor emotional or psychological issues!!
When we started out the relationship it was great I felt happy, like I have always been in my relationships but when his insecurities started acting out I freaked... I mean he's a good guy, but is this normal?
Do you think that the problem is me? Is this a healthy relationship? We are have only been dating for 4 months, is this normal in such a premature stage of a relationship?? Are my feeling justifiable? Should I make a run now or give it more time? Is it bad that in our last breakup i didn't miss him?? Does this mean I don't love him??
HELP!! Please!

Your instincts are there for a reason. You do not need a "perfect" reason to stop seeing a boyfriend. If it feels odd, it probably is odd. If it's difficult now, just think what it will be like in a couple of years.

Everyone has their insecurities, but if his insecurities push him to imply that his feelings are your fault, he is probably not long-term material.

It's better never to marry than to be married to someone who feels entitled to drag your mood around. If he needs "re-habbing," he's not ready to be an adult. Protect your future!!! You wouldn't keep driving the full length of a lovely road that had 6' deep, 60' wide ruts every 10 miles, would you?

I can't talk...Im overly jealous, but not to that point. If he isnt the "one" don't waste your time. Just because he has all the qualities you think you want...sometimes the guy you fall madly in love for in the most unlikely.

Thank you for your advise, I guess it is a difficult decision to make because I am conscious that there are a lot of not nice people out there, but I guess I am trying to force myself to love someone when I believe that love should never be forced, it should come natural. I have given it time but I guess for his sake and my own I should make a decision that although it will be painful for him now, I guess the sooner the better.
But I do have to admit that it kind of scares me that I'll let him go and I'll never find someone with the qualities I look for, but I guess life is about taking risks, so it's time I take one and leave my comfort zone in order to be happy. Thank you!

Good lucky honey!!