Kharma, what are you doing now? Are you still working at the warehouse? I know that everyone makes mistakes, but hopefully each person learns from those mistakes and doesn't repeat them.
I think what everyone was saying before is that you should never sell yourself out and trade in your morals to try to get back at somebody. Speaking as a mother, I would hope that you learned that your body is a temple and you should respect it. I think that is what everyone was most upset about, not about whether or not your boyfriend came on here to take your side.
It is never a good idea to use sex to get someone's attention or to make someone jealous. It is a big part of "love" that is to be shared when you find someone that wants the same things as you, then you both make plans for the future. You are young. You should be having fun with friends. You should be getting your education and planning for your future. A future where you can stand on your own two feet and be financially independent without depending on a man or anyone else.
There are women with children on this board AND marrieds without children that talk all the time about the future and the stress of planning, finances, doing the things you want to do and who will take care of you when you get old. These are things that you need to think about too.
Everyone here wants to have you come back and talk about YOUR life, what YOU are planning to do and ask any questions you might have about better ways of carrying out your plans. Many of us have gone to college and paid for it ourselves; lived on our own without being supported or abused. Some of us haven't. There are many resources here, intended to help, amuse and comfort. There are many Christians here who want to help guide you also, as it appeared your last relationship needed a little "parental" guidance. So, I personally don't think you need to apologize, but then I really wasn't in the middle of all the "other stuff", except reading it.
I hope that you are making some positive moves forward with your life and can come on here and keep us informed. You don't need to be afraid of anyone on here. If you don't know how to move forward in positive ways, then ask! I've told you some here. The others told you the past was NOT positive so we can assume that is over. Just keep us posted. Okay?
Take care of yourself. God bless you and count your blessings. Pray for God's guidance and trust that if you listen, HE will guide. Good Luck!
Trish
