BellaOnline Forums Family Step Parenting Update on situation

Hi just letting you all now my dad, step-mother and little came down last sunday to see me, my boyfriend and baby. They went to see my grandad, uncle first. Was not happy which was silly really. I wanted to go with them to see my uncle who I have not seen in ages. There was no space in car for my bf only for me and the baby. My step-mother was going also which I thought to myself why she going for as my uncle and granddad don't like her. Then thought to be nosey but afterward was okay. I can see them anytime because they live not far from me. Its just we lost contact with my uncle for some time which was awkward. Long story hard to explain.
Think my step-mother must of been happy too seeing as she couldn't go to costco that time.
You see my dad is working shifts so my they couldn't come down to visit me in london together. Which I will be honest I loved seeing my dad on his own because I could talk to him about anything without her making a comment or sticking her nose in and being involved. So my dad told me he is going back to work 9-5 which means they will be able to come to london to visit me together more often. Which now I think my step-mother is going to love because my dad wont spend time with me by myself and she is always going to be there.
I am finding myself getting really resenting her although we get on when she is there. Well I kind of be civil for my dads sake but can't stand her. Half the time she is in my house I ignore her sometimes when she talks her rubbish.

little brother

Miche,

I think you're a lot like me, in the reverse. We are carrying "old baggage" w/ us from past treatments of your SM and my SKids. Though on the surface, everyone is cordial, we really would prefer to just not have to deal w/ them at all. Sad, but true in my case and I think in yours. Of course, we all crave one-on-one time w/ our parents and your SM is a constant intruder, but she is his wife, so he can't really ex her out. W/ me, it's the adult kids and they are my husband's flesh and blood, so I suppose he has to accomodate them periodically. It creates a lot of turmoil for us, but it's the way it is. I pray to just have the peace return that I felt for a few months earlier this year until I feel my SD who lives w/ us overstepped her boundaries. Unfortunately, the old demons have reared their ugly faces and though she is trying to be very considerate of me ever since, inside, I know I can't be pleased until something heals in my heart. That's what I pray for for both of us.

Dana

Its true what your saying because as I think of my past I feel worse. Its like that missing little girl watching brings me back to the time when she left me outside my uncles. I know its not the same but wonder if that day I could have been taken away by someone.
Its so many things that is making me resent her and to be honest think if I don't deal with it I will snap one day and say something to her.