I could NOT have a baby to keep my husband. I just couldn't. If he came up to me tonight and said "Let's have a baby" (which would be highly unlikely) I'd say "Sorry, can't do it." He is a very busy person and I know I would be stuck with the bulk of baby care, which I have never wanted at all.
Maybe if you tell your husbands, sure, you'll have a kid, but you don't want to quit your job and you don't believe in daycare, so you'll be fine with it if he will quit his job and become a stay-at-home-dad.
I feel for you, I wouldn't want to be in your spots, that must be so difficult. Bottom line, I think you have to be true to yourself, and go with your gut feelings, or you'll end up resenting a possible baby, your husband, or both.
BTW, "A child will be both of us together and that will be real love?" WTH??? Does he know that many couples end up DIVORCING when kids are young because of how TOUGH kids are on a marriage???
Cindy