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Love The Secret. Believe The Secret.
After reading it, I was thinking, "wow. my life is so great. I really wouldn't change anything. Pay off debt. That's it. Then I don't have to work, I can be with my kids!"

So I start. I ask. I believe...I fill out my universal bank check. I start slowing down taking jobs so I can gently fade out of the business that I own so I'm not gone on weekends. Total Bliss.

Turns out, my business COSTS us money now that we're married. no child credit. We make too much.

I feel like I manifested the wrong way! What do I do?

Hi Bryan!

Years ago i read a fantastic book called: Your Money or Your Life. It's a very different kind of money book. The authors help you figure out what is important to you in your life, and to ditch the rest. It's part of the simplicity movement. The authors want to see everyone achieve financial independence and have a 9 step plan, but more than that... they want to help people be happier before they even get there... and they don't do the "earn more so you can have more" philosophy one bit!

Most people who follow the book wind up spending a LOT less and owning less, but not by giving up a single thing that matters to them, only by eliminating things from their life that are cluttering their path to getting what they want. In fact, most people who do the program start in debt, get out of debt quickly, start having more of what they want, work less, and start moving towards financial independence all at the same time! I'm not kidding! You decide for yourself what's best for you, though. Some people might decide to sacrifice for a year or two, if it means then they could retire.

The authors show you how to make the way YOU relate to money completly what's right for YOU and no one else. No more lattes if lattes don't really matter to you, but you can have lattes if they do matter to you! You start by taking COMPLETE stock of what you have and where you are financially and materially, and then evaluate where you would like to be and if you've been moving in the right direction for you. Most people only think they know what they want, but you need to figure out in detail what is right for YOU and not for your neighbor or the Joneses but for YOU, and this book has pertinent questions to ask yourself and exercises so you can figure out things like your REAL hourly wage, and whether the square footage of your house is needed just to store stuff you don't really use or want anyway.

It sounds to me from your post that so far you know you want more time with your kids and to get out of debt, but you're not sure how to get there, and perhaps this business or other things are not right for you, and i think this book can help you figure out what you want to drop or add from your life so you can have more of what you want and have it sooner.

The book is popular enough now you can probably find it at your library, and there is also a website with free tools and a good discussion board for the steps of the program here:

http://www.simpleliving.net/main/category.asp?catid=2

So you would need to either borrow or buy a copy of the book, but there is nothing more that you need to do the 9 steps suggested... this isn't a sales scheme where there's a whole bunch of expensive stuff to get... just the book and i see it retails for about $10 at Amazon.

I'm really glad you posted, because you reminded me i should go back to it myself! I had discovered it right before my divorce and ...well... life happened and i got distracted, but i'd like to get back to it!

I found a practical and useful advice on how to apply the Law of Attraction that can change your life for the better and to get abundance in life that you want, after reading Attraction Accelerator by Stephen Pierce and Bob Proctor, one of the famed speaker in the famed dvd movie the Secret.

I try to practice daily gratitute. We want to be grateful for everything that we have already had.

Grateful for the fact that we wake up every morning and thankful that we can breath freely. Grateful that we have a good family, relatives and friends that care for us. When we eat, we pray and give thanks and always grateful to whatever we have.

When we are grateful of what we have already had, it will attract people or friends or things that we like and love into our life more and more.

All the gratefulness that we practice daily would give us good feelings everyday.

Good feelings are like love, gratitute, joy, hapiness, hope, satisfaction, passion, etc. Bad feelings are like anger, resentment, hate, fear, revenge, guilt, worry, depression, etc.

Good feelings empower you while bad feelings do not.

Our thought cause our feelings; our feelings let us know what we are thinking.

If you have good feelings, it will attract to you more good feelings and things that make you feel good.

Feelings are feedback mechanism whether we are on track or not with our desire. If you are feeling good, you are creating your future which is on track with what you want.

If you are worried and in fear, it will bring you more of those bad feelings through-out your day and you become miserable.

It always begins with our thought. if we always think of people that we don't like for whatever reason, then because of our thought, it might attract more of those kind of people in our life. The opposite is true.

What we are thinking and feeling today is creating our future.

If we want to change our circumstance, we first have to change our thinking and feelings.

This is what I learn from the Secret -- the Law of Attraction that can change your life into abundance life when you know how to apply the law. The amazing report Attraction Accelerator by Stephen Pierce and Bob Proctor can be downloaded FR.EE at OptiMindzation Attraction Accelerator

Seems like everyone who asks a question that lends itself to a Law of Attraction connection attracts replies from people (not YOU Holly!!) who want to sell us something. By rights, I should delete Adam111's and Lukman's posts (at least the part with the commercial link). What say, everyone?

Barbara

It doesn't have to be connected. It's sort of like when you have a fortune cookie, and whatever you read in the fortune you add to the end, "between the sheets" and it kinda makes sense...

Here try it:

I worked in my garden today and i have found some practical and useful advice on how to apply the Law of Attraction. So i got some compost from my compost pile and heaped it around my herbs after being inspired by reading the Attraction Accelerator and then i tried to practice gratitude only i happen to spell it right. HAHHAHAHAHA.

Hi Bryan,

What I could suggest to you is that keep on working as usual but with a different mindset.
You set your goals, and visualize it every day, action on it then receive...
it's like in the secret... 1. ask = goals/dreams
2. believe = visualize
3. receive

actually there's a missing link in the secret movie, in the movie you saw there's one person that do visualization with a headset & music turn on.

The music w/ headset is actually helping him to be more focus & his brainwave to go to alpha easily and make his visualization more powerful.

That's what I do evrey morning and nite to visualize my goals with the music & headset...and the good news is it works...

Oh delete away.... I would....

Law of Attraction? Secret? C**p dressed up as fertilizer....

I've said it before and i'll say it again... someone's trying to re-invent the wheel here, and make a huge profit in doing it. Sheeeesh! And folks like Bryan, Adam111 and Lukeman have bought slap bang into it. Like it's brand new, never seen before......hmmmm...all men.... maybe we women are just more sensible and less gullible? Tee heee.

I vote for deleting too. It's frustrating to look for honest responses and get halfway through a post before you realize it's been cut and pasted in by an advertiser with no shame. And i worry about Newbees and less experienced forum posters who may not know how to discern yet.