Did you actively plan to have children, (discuss having a family, make plans for when, etc.), or not?
Yes, we did. Both times.
Would you have waited longer to become a parent if you could have?
No, I was 27 when I had my first and 34 when I had my second. I waited 6 1/2 years between my two kids partially so I could complete my Master's degree and partially because I simply didn't think I could handle the stress of having kids any closer together.
Were you and your spouse in agreement on the decision to have children?
Yes.
Please note this is not about not loving your children. Also note that too many good, caring parents hesitate to answer this question due to fear of "social outcasting."
Do you regret being a parent and why.
Sometimes. I think all choices that end up requiring a lot of sacrifices occasionally become overwhelming. Especially now as a more or less single parent (my ex-husband travels extensively), I sometimes wish I had more time to myself and fewer financial responsibilities. But I also get a lot out of having children, so in the end, I am glad I made the decision I did. This is not to say that there haven't been days when I wished I had a full-time nanny, cook, and housekeeper however!
