BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Doubts? More or less as you get older.

I think I think about it more now b/c it's now or never (I'm 35). I wouldn't want to have one much later than this, b/c there is too much of a risk for complications.

I know Hollywood keeps telling it's perfectly safe and possible to conceive later, but I know several women that have had a really hard time conceiving after 35. It isn't that easy, and it isn't that safe.

But I still don't have the urge. I'm content. And I don't want to borrow trouble. I think you have to be careful what you wish for.

I don' think I could handle the noise and chaos. And, I wonder if any of you feel this way, I feel like I don't have enough time for myself. Just the weekend, really. My commute makes for a long day, and I pretty much live for weekends.

If I had a kid, I would never have any time to myself. And I can't live like that.

I like both of those protest chants.....
I wish I could think of something as catchy as "we here, we're queer, we don't want anymore bears" (Homer Simpson).
Hmm.....
This is really more appropriate for a Tshirt:
"Three reasons to remain childfree:
1. Adolf Hitler
2. Jeffrey Dahmer
3. Ted Bundy"

Add this Cho guy to the list. Wouldn't want to be his mom right now.

Oh, frieda, I know- I was thinking the same thing. His poor family... I feel as bad for his relatives as for the families of his victims.

I agree. See these are the children that people want to act like don't exist. This one girl told me one time "you don't know whose womb will bear the next king" but I am thinking "who knows whose womb will bear the next serial killler/rapist/pedophile."

I've been wondering for days about his family...and then I saw they made a statement today. I'm sure he had an interesting childhood. It's possible that he's just mentally ill, and his family had nothing to do with it. But... I don't know...

I think if you are parent, you have to love your kid no matter what they do. But it must be hard.

It's a shame they can't do something until someone acts out. They knew he was a threat. It's terrifying.

Someone was saying the other day that they help parents early on with the babies, but when your teenager or college student is acting strange, nobody does anything about it.

Wow. She's ridiculously pro-natalist *and* pompous *and* apparently doesn't even understand the relatively simple concept of hereditary monarchy!

A three-fer!