I already feel selfish, for even considering no as the option. And guilt. My life is "normal." I'm the one that has a spouse, career, kids, "white picket fence" live near mom and dad and married the home town hero. (Trust me, it's by no means perfect). But my siblings has been hell. I don't know why, I don't get it. There's no history of alcoholism in our family. It's so sad, and I have to admit, I have little tolerance of the behavior.