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We can say that some couples do not have love and commitment. I don't really understand what they do have though.


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Yes, if they have no love or commitment, why are they together?

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I have no idea. One can only make a lot of guesses on that.


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People sometimes stay together because they believe there is love or comitment, whereas in actual fact what they are feeding or responding to is needyness, and emotional addiction. What they think is Love, is need. What they think is commitment is an addiction to a condition where they believe they are essential to the other person's happiness.

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I edited my response, Alexandra. I was saying that I understood different reasonings but didn't want to have a discussion on what others might be thinking or doing.

I went off and read another post that allowed me to see that this is a personal issue for CDMohatta not some abstract and distant line of thought. My opinion and feelings on this change due to that.




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CD,

In addition to what Alexandra has shared, I might also suggest that a person's feelings and opinions towards another can be changed over the years by experiences.

In the U.S. many believe that marrying young is a bad idea because the individuals are sure to grow and change. Sometimes when that happens the couple finds they are no longer of like mind, they no longer feel and want the same things they did when they were young. This causes unhappiness and often divorce.

It happens to older adults too though. Hardship, trauma, loss and more can cause people to change and make changes in their lives.


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I believe that there are lot of pretensions of love. when it comes to the crux, they get exposed.

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This is true as well.


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Thank you for clarifying, His Brandy.... Most kind. _/|\_

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Pl. letme add. My pst was not referring to my experience. I wanted to discuss the broader aspects of relationship. Please keep aside my other posts and let us talk further.

So, we agree that people without love also come together and live.
When it comes to crux, they run away.

We agree that perceptions change.
How about values? Itwas recently found that if you are sleepless for long time, your moral judgement suffers.
So things are not as simple as they look. Right?


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