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#303003 03/27/07 08:22 PM
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I was interested to read your article "Is Cyber Love real Love". I belive that, like any relationship, you need to work at it. Last year, I did something that I swore I'd never do: not only did I get involved with a gentleman 10 years younger than myself, it is also a Cyber affair.

I've known him for some time before that, and we found ourselves talking more and more, and sharing more and more, and we really did just drift together.

Love took time, but it grew. I fully understand how people can be deceived, but then that can happen in "real life" as well. My boyfriend and I speak on the phone, via e-mail and every day via instant message. We both have webcams, so our conversations are mostly using a webcam.

Interstingly enough, we tend to talk through problems, rather than ingnore them, and we also are fully aware of the downside of each other.

At 40, yes, I think that I have found love. I know I'm not the most attractive person around, and, to be honest, neither is he, but we are happy and are making plans to meet.

Will what we have survive the meeting? I believe it will. But only because we've both been completely open and honest with each other.

I suppose, as I said, it's like any relationship. Honest, trust and loyalty will ensure that it continues and grows.

Have I found love? I believe so. I miss him if I don't "speak" to him each day, he does little things to make me feel loved and desired all the time (he's a rel closet romantic!), and he admitted to me first that he misses me when we don't "speak" each day.

We support each other in our daily lives, using words of support and love, and "virtual" cuddles (and a virtual cuddle, with loving words, works just as well when you're feeling down as a real one does).

I suppose love is how you find and nurture it. In that way, I suppose Cyber Love is as real as any love - espeically if you call it a long distance relationship. It does need a lot more work and trust - but then everything worthwile needs work.


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you fall in love with a person - not a body.. a person is as much a person behind a keyboard as in person. Congrats on your new found love and much luck on your first physical meeting..


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Hi,

Megan,

Are you sure that this person is a man and is 10 years younger to you?

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Originally Posted By: Mindy86
you fall in love with a person - not a body.. a person is as much a person behind a keyboard as in person. Congrats on your new found love and much luck on your first physical meeting..


Yes. you fall in love with a personality.

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Darlin she talks to the person on the phone and webcams with him - Thats about as sure as she can get without asking him to pull out his private parts smile


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Definitely. Not only from webcam & phone & skype chats, but also from mutual friends who live in the UK.


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It is OK then.

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You have to be really careful with people you meet over the internet.
I work on cyber stalking cases and people that are married but posting ads on personals sites.
You really have to do your homework and check them out.

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Originally Posted By: lasvegaspi
You have to be really careful with people you meet over the internet.
I work on cyber stalking cases and people that are married but posting ads on personals sites.
You really have to do your homework and check them out.


that is very correct.

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I appreciate your comment about my article. I agree, you must be very careful, which it sounds as though you are. I wish you the very best with your meeting. Just please do it in a very public place so if you ever feel threatened or uncomfortable in any way at all, you can leave. I pray your relationship will be as wonderful as it sounds.

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