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I have been with my fiance for nearly 2 years. I am 24 years old and he is 31 years old. We have been engaged for about 1 year and we have a 10- month old daughter. I suffer from clinical depression and I feel our relationship is not as good as it could be. He does not show affection the way he did before I had the baby. Sometimes we go for days without even a single kiss or I tell him that I love him and I usually recieve no response or just a simple uh huh. I often talk to him to let him know what I want and how I feel- it does no good. There are times when I ask him if the only reason he asked me to marry him was because of the baby. How do I know that he really does love me and how can I get him to show me affection and that he cares?

When was the last time the two of you went on a date? I mean a genuine, dress up a little, leave the baby with grandma, leave discussions about baby at home, go out and have some grown up fun, date. You need it, he needs it. It's a great way to reconnect and/or see where you stand.

On the other extreme: If you've explored every avenue of "couple time" and "let's talk about us" you can think of, it may be time to sit him down in a quiet time and place. Ask one simple question: Do you want to call off the wedding? A straight forward, no nonsense, yes or no type question like that will get his attention.
Some people may think I'm a crazy extremist for this idea, but it has been my experience that sometimes you have to scare a man a little to open his eyes. Also, keep in mind that if you phrase this question simply and do not lead in with something to the tune of "I don't really want to, but do you...", you do no influence him to just say what he thinks you want to hear. Basically, I'm saying you need to force him to be straight with you.