BellaOnline Forums Family Attachment Parenting How do you explain Attachment Parenting?

How do you explain your style of child rearing to your family and non AP friends?

I don't. It is non of their business. I owe no one an explanation.
They do their way, I do mine.

If they are interested I loan them books and articles. But they are not really interested.

I don't. It is non of their business. I owe no one an explanation.
They do their way, I do mine.

If they are interested I loan them books and articles. But they are not really interested.

ok so I am not a parent or anything but what is Attachment parenting?

I'm so glad you asked that freespirit! It gave me a reason to re-read some info that I hadn't read for a while.

To answer you without giving you more inforamtion that you really want, different people focus on different aspects of the principal of attachment parenting. There's co-sleeping, baby wearing and breastfeeding and some consider natural or home birth to be important as well as organic foods, etc. Some parents work on every facet religiously and others pick what works for them.

Ah... Baby Wearing? sorry but that just put a very wierd picture in my head... I have never hear this term so could you explane what that is please? never mind I googled it! haha baby in a back pack kinda... what a great way to free up your hands!!! I didnt know that was a parenting style; I just thought that it was just a different way to carry a baby. I see moms and dads with those all the time here... Thanks for your help. I keep seeing this group pop up and had to ask!

LOL freespirit! AP is a good way to free your hands and save your sanity in my opinion. Once I tapped into attachment parenting I saw my babies get calmer and happier. My mom warned me that I was going to make my girls too dependant on me, but to the contrary I believe that it has made them more confidant. It may not be for everybody, but I've seen lots of positive results in other families as well as my own.

well when i first read wearing you baby the picture i got was something like you wear your baby like a pair of pants... shirt or maybe a watch... then I just had to google it to see what it was just for my piece of mind! I though " how in the world would you wear a kid? where in the world would you wear a kid?" so... I feel much better after seeing that the baby is not a t-shirt or shoe....

I think the Native Americans put there babies in a what-cha-call-it and carried them around with them it makes perfect since to me.... I was just so relieved that people did not make there kids into clothing! I have no idea why I thought that but after the image poped into my head it would not leave!

I've never really had to explain attachment parenting to anyone all in one go.

The grandparents were introduced to the idea little by little ("You're not using a crib? But aren't you supposed to have a crib?", and "Don't you ever put her down?", and "What if you roll over and crush her?", etc), and by now have gotten the idea through all the bits and pieces they've been exposed to.

They still have the occasional relapse now and then. Those do more to give us insight into how we were raised than anything else!

hahaha I bet! I think my mom is one that did the deattached parenting style. I really dont think she wanted a baby at all and at 35 i think she was happy thinking she was going thru the change, had a cold lots of stress whatever. everyone in the family knew she was pregnat and when she went to the dr and he confirmed it she said bull your full of it! dont get me wrong I love my mom but i think if she had it to do over she would not have had me. After my father died she just kinda shut down. I have food cloths and shelter and she got me things to play with and I went to school after that she was like What you have everything you want go play and leave me alone!

anyways I can see your point!