BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Ugh...(Need to vent)

My friend is having an unplanned child. She's in college and most likely will have to drop out for at least a semester. She's gonna move off campus with a guy (who's not the baby's father...he just loves and accepts her, which is good). My only problem is that I'm so sick of hearing about her pregnancy! AGH! I love her to death! She's been my friend for years...but do I REALLY have to hear about how she's growing hair all over her [censored] and buttocks and is planning to get it waxed? Or about her morning sickness (which lasts all day)? Or about her cravings? Lately all she has wanted to talk about is what she's going through with her pregnancy. I'm sick of hearing about it! I know it sounds selfish, but its' true. I've ceased caring. I try to be respectful. I try to listen. I won't lie and say I'm happy for her because I'm not. How do I deal?

Poor thing...I mean you! Did you hear this saying....THIS TOO WILL PASS!....well in a few months the lady will deliver her baby and the story will change from her bodily functions to the baby's functions....so get ready start reading a baby book so you know how to reply....lol...I can't help but laugh..because every woman who has ever had a baby wants to "tell the world" every time she passes gas or has to burp..."will this hurt the baby?"..Naw....the baby loves the pressure...go ahead and let the gas out so the baby won't end up with a headache! Whatever...you have to hear let it go in one ear and out the other. Or let your hair grow long and use ear plugs when she starts her "sermon on the mount"....I'm not being disrespectful of you or her but you have to take lemons and make lemonaide for just a little while until the pregnancy is over...it's all new and is the utmost thing she has on her mind nothing else matters...God bless you for being there to hear and being patient even if it hurts...
Hugs from Mama Jazzy Geri

Well it's just a courtesy thing, really. If I've had a bad day and want to vent about it, I don't wanna get a response such as "Oh. That sucks. I ate 6 boxes of Girl Scout cookies and then had to ralph it all up. I haven't felt the baby kicking or anything, and I'm 3 months along now. I have hair on my [censored] now. It hurts when my bf and I have sex, etc. etc.". That's just not anything that's in polite conversation, I'm sorry. Plus it sucks for me to watch her (She's 19 for chrissakes and I'm 21) go through this. Even she admits that she's screwed up her future and, to a point, I agree. She can eventually get it back on track, but it won't be at least for another 5-10 years.

Morby:
Maybe it's time for you to have a talk with your friend. Let her know that you still care about her, and are sorry that she's feeling awful... but that you really don't need to hear about ALL of her physical issues. AND you would also like to talk about something other than pregnancy and babies. Let her know that you don't find pregnancy to be a very scintillating topic, and suggest some other things that you could discuss.
Actually, you will probably be doing her a favor because most other non-moms don't want to hear that cr@p either. Remind her of the things that you two have in common, and tell her how much you wish you two could go back to closer to the way things were before she got pregnant.
If she replies that all she's interested in now is the baby, then unfortunately, you and she probably both need to get new friends.
Perhaps you could designate a minute or two on each meeting to check in with her health... but then you need to move on to other topics.

The level of detail your friend gives is one of the reasons I never felt compelled to have kids. A couple of my friends did the exact same thing (one was obsessed with the amount of excess blood your body produces) and that was enough for me. There are some things that a pregnant woman should never reveal to friends who have not been pregnant. If she wasn't pregnant, would she be sharing all this detail about abnormal hair growth? I'd think that would be pretty private. I hate to tell you though, I was pretty blunt about "that's disgusting. keep telling me and I'll never have kids" but it didn't work. They JUST DON'T get it.