To all parties on this blog string whose husbands are pressuring them to have children, realize that YOU will most likely be the one pulling the grunt work--e.g., kid vomits and/or poops the bed at 2AM, kid pulls a temper tantrum right in the middle of a restaurant and cannot be consoled, you get the picture. From what I've seen most guys like the idea of having kids so that they can teach them things--e.g, how to throw a baseball, how to build a sandcastle, etc. From what some of you who are on the fence have described, you have pretty much decided that childrearing is not for you, which is okay! Just please don't have a child to "save" a marriage. A child should not be brought into this world with a job. Also, if a man is monitoring your fertility and scheduling sex to have a baby, that is VERY controlling behavior that is a warning shot of other things to come! By the way, I would say that if a woman were doing that to a man as well and I am a woman. It could very well be that it's time to call it quits, but it's a whole helluva lot easier to divorce if kids are not involved. Just be sure to get a GOOD lawyer and follow their advice to a T. Food for thought.
