Your article is tremendously interesting. I actually tell my friends about
>your detailed,understandable and rewardable documentation. I am impressed.
>Briefly, I need your advice on my current circumstances.I was in a severe
>abusive marriage which ended in 5 years. I have 2 children age 14 and 17. It
>was difficult to reconcile this marriage, not only abusive but he was also
>cheating. I did not want my children to grew up in in such a devastating
>atmosphere. It has been 13 years I am living alone with my children.
>At work I got involved with a married man who had no children.It simply
>started as friends.He gave
>me the confidence to trust him. I enjoy his friendship, he exercise alot of
>care towards me and my children.He gave me alot of expensive gifts, cards,
>call me on weekends. At the begining his wife was never home on weekends
>always out with a male friends.His wife will tell him to ask me out to
>dinner, movies, coffee, etc. But I always refused since he is a married man.
>Time went by he start telling me he loves me, he misses me, he continue
>calling me from his home even though his wife is around. At this time time I
>got used to his calls, I see him at work very frequently. Then one day after
>6 years of friedship he tole I cannot call you in the night because my wife
>is pregnant. At this time i realised I was in love with him.I missed his
>calls in the night.I was depressed
>in which I was taking anti-depressants for a year.
>Unfortunately, his wife had a miscarriage. We continue see each other at
>work, he calls me from his cell phone and on pay phone. I knew I should
>dissolve this unhealthy relationship, but was difficult.
>I felt trapped. Anytime I ask him about his relationship home, he completely
>ignored me. I knew I had to end it.How? was always my question. Now his wife
>is pregnant again, he told me" I cannot speak to you anymore because my wife
>wants me to have no communication with you". And guess what he does not talk
>to me anymore although we work for the same employer. How can a person be so
>cruel? I keep asking myself.I sometime wish we never work together. IT hurts
>me alot. I do not know how to deal with it. He does not answer his phone, he
>does not come to the office.
I desperately need your advice how to deal with this. I am
>getting anxiety attack especillay in the morning knowing I have to go to
>work where he is.
>Please advise.
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