BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids The "Experience of Being Pregnant"

Just wondering how all of you felt about women saying they want to get pregnant "for the experience". Do you guys think it would be better just to adopt and save some kid's life rather than have the experience for 9 months and then it's over? What are your thoughts on this?

I have been pregnant 3 times, and I hated it each time. All resulted in abortions.
But to each there own.
Do what makes you happy, I know I did.

Honestly, the "experience" terrifies and disgusts me.

Hell yes, if you're inclined toward kids, give one a better life rather than pumping out another human just for the experience!

Personally, all aspects of pregnancy completely freak me out. I would never do it "for the experience." Ick.

I'm sorry. I have 2 kids-but couldn't resist posting. The "experience of being pregnant" may be a high for a few; but the nausea, barfing, difficulty breathing, having to pee all the time, stretch marks, vericose veins, nose bleeds from excess blood production, having to watch what you eat, swollen ankles, etc., etc. that everyone I know has had--not to mention the things they do to you during doctor's visits and when you actually have thid kid--just don't make for a "joyous" experience.

I find it highly disturbing people are out there "just to experience" birth and are not ready to be a parent. And for the people out there getting pregnant that don't want to be; there are a hundred different kinds of birth control, be responsible.

I have chronic health conditions and I feel blah all the time. I can't imagine how much worse it would be if I was pregnant!

And you know, I mentioned to somebody once that one (of many) reasons that I don't want kids is because I am so exhausted already, and I don't want to feel even worse having to look after a kid all the time (it's more than enough trying to take care of myself most days), and she had the audacity to tell me that I would be able to overlook that, once I'm basking in the joy of being a parent.

I stopped speaking to her after that. Incidently, she's not a parent yet (as far as I know), so I have no idea why she would even say such a thing!

I'm with you. Personally, I did NOT have a good childhood (kids are MEAN) and I would not intentionally bring another person into the world and put them through that. If I ever did get that mothering instinct, I would adopt a child. At least I could try to make that child's life a better one than it would have been.
From all accounts, there are only a very few women who actually enjoy being pregnant. All the permanent physical changes that come with pregnancy and childbirth do not appeal to me whatsoever.
I am very thankful that I was born in a time when there is a CHOICE for women on whether they wish to have children or not. I pity those women who still do not have a choice in childbearing.

I think if you really want kids then maybe you want the experience. I cant imagine it, even though Im on the fence about kids the idea of pregancy is awful. If I did decide to have kids pregnancy would be an awful hurtle to overcome not a great experience. I think if you are getting pregnant for the experience you better be into for the experience of being a mom too, if you want both I think its ok. To each their own. One downside of adoption I see, which I admit is selfish, is so many children who are adopted have developmental delays. I work with kids with developmental delays. Several of my former students were adopted from foreign countries and suffered from various issues including fetal alcohol syndrome, the adopted parents did not always know about these issues. At least if you have your own kid you can be sure to take good care of yourself during hte pregnancy, but I do think adoption is a wonderful thing but only for those parents who are really ready for the potential risks and challenges.

Adopting is an experience too.

So is childfreedom.