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I have been married for 7 month. I am Japanese and husband is Canadian. And he wants to get divorce.

I moved to Canada for the marrige and got stress a lot.
Because I have a big complex of my English, I have no visa for work, (It take 1 year to get immigration visa) and no friend, can't see my family....especially work.
I worked in Japan as a teacher. I loved that job, but in Canada, I can't have those kind job.

I really got stressed and also my husband is so strict of money, I got stress of that too.
We have been fought almost all the time.
I became depressed, ant started hitting him, breaking things like glasses, window......I couldn't control my emotion at all. I went to a doctor to get medichine but didn't work.

He is great but he doesn't have common sence, so those things all came out for bad way.

But oneday, we have decided to clear and refresh everything and re-start the marrige again. I was so happy, then I go back to Japan, he was gonna come to visit me at Christmas , and we were gonna back to Canada in January.
That was our plan.
When I am in Japan (for 2 month) we have decided to have a room mate and I asked him please to not have a woman room mate. He is not cheating man, so I wasn't worried about cheating but I didn't feel comfortable that a woman who I don't know, she lives at our apartment with him when I am not there.

Right after I came back to japan, he said that he took a woman room mate. I god mad.
Not because jeraous, because he didn't hear my favor.

And then he said that he wants to get divorved.
Now I am in Japan, all of my stuff are still in Canada.
But he said he have already taken off my name from apartment lease, and he have decided to move new apartment soon.

I totally get confused. I came back to Japan to refresh, I was really happy to see my family and say "I am happy, I am ok" but then now I have to show my tears to my parents.
I don't have my passport now cuz I sent it to Canadian immigration in Manila to get immigration visa.
So I even can't go to Canada to see and talk to him.
I don't know what is going on.

He said the room mate thing was just a reason to think "Chieko is still bad, so we shold get divorce."
He says he still love me, but I was violent, so he doesn't want to live in there anymore.

But, but we have deceded to refresh.
Then why.......now?
He also says this , if I am around him, he loves me so much and then when he see my face, he can't leave from me.
But now I am in Japan, so he says he can go.

Does marrige finish like this?
No talking, no seeing each other, even in different country?
What can I do? I want to talk to him and try again.
Is that impossible?
I am really really sad... shinchieko@hotmail.com [color:"green"] [/color]

My wife is Japanese and sadly we hear of some many foolish Japanese woman dating with some guy only to be used and pushed away.

You are the only one who truly knows if your marriage can be saved or not. Your marriage seems to have been built on nothing.......after 7 months you are already failing and falling. I'd say this marriage was a mistake and is already done with. Everything works well when he sees you but not when he doesn't? Do you really want to spent the rest of your life with a........*sigh* let me stop.

I don't know about him being strict on money but when my wife and I first got together I was strick on money as well, because we didn't have any and she needed to get used to NOT being in Japan and how things worked in America. These are some things you should have talked about in the begining BEFORE you got married.

contrary to popular belief, LOVE isn't all you need.

gombatte!

PaRrIs

That make me crazy to think a Japanese girl lives our apartment (not anymore though)
I even can get my stuff my self.

SAD.

Chieko
As I see you love your H, and for him you lost your job and have been far from your family for a while.
Hope you resume your marriage again. Maybe it�ll be helpful if you more study about law and situation in Canada that how could protect you.