BellaOnline Forums Health and Fitness Pregnancy When will the emotional pain subside?

[color:"purple"] me again... things keep coming up about babies, like my brothers girlfriend, she is pregnant but is the kind of girl that lied about being pregnant just to keep her past boyfriends and also my brother, from leaving her. She told him she was on birth control but told me she had stopped taking it. it hurts to think that i wanted my baby so much and was so happy about it and it got taken away from me without anything that i could do... i went into the hospital and was hemorraging badly, all that they did for me was give me gravol and morphiene for the pain and left me there for hours... not checking on me or anything... to me it seems that maybe there should have been something that they could have done to help me... and maybe it could have saved my baby... but instead i am left with the "hole" inside me that can't be filled again... i dream about my baby all the time, and about being pregnant again, but i am afraid to get pregnant again... also i have been left with SO much pain still... its been almost 4 weeks and i am still bleeding and having massive cramping... does anyone know if all this is normal? [/color]

I'm really sorry for your loss. I would really recommend trying to find some kind of support group for pregnancy loss, maybe online or in your community. It sounds as if you really need others around who can understand and allow you to grieve.
As always, I want to recommend finding a caregiver that can help you physically and emotionally. In my eyes, this would be another woman, a midwife namely. Midwives, unlike most doctors, are used to caring for women in a multitide of ways and loss is unfortunately one of them. Also, once you get pregnant again (and you likely will) you will have the opportunity to develop a further relationship with your midwife as she cares for you thruout your pregnancy.
Best of luck, and with hopes you are healing,

Maryn
Bella Online Pregnancy Editor