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I had THE most nauseating weekend, so much so that I had to start a post. Which I never do, I just enjoy contributing to the ones already in existence.

Now, seeing how I am leaving for a little week long get-a-way this Wednesday, I was shopping Macy's sale in Macon with my mom on Saturday in hopes of finding a few new pairs of jeans for my trip. I'm happily hunting with a couple of items slung over my arm (well, OK several items...anyway), when an apple-shaped, smelly human runs face first into me. She had an infant - and I DO mean INFANT, as in, freshly vacated from it's mother's uterus - in her arms with a bottle shoved in it's piehole. People, I s hit you not when I tell you that the sounds coming from this tiny, stinky bundle of crusty soured milk was so horrid I actually became nauseas!! There was milk spilling out from around the bottle and it's crooked mouth, eyes rolling around in the back of it's head...UGH, JESUS... just... gag me...BLECH!!!!

Apparently, the expression on my face offended her in a major sort of way and delivered precisely the feelings I was experiencing. Waiting for an apology to HER for running into ME, she just stared at me with those angry, tired puffy eyes and greasy unkemped hair. I made a hasty retreat back to the junior department until I could compose myself. No words were exchanged, but a complete conversation had taken place: I was sickened by the whole incident; she was appaled that I didn't find her freshly created parasite cute, nor that I didn't apologize for her running into me.

The scenario begs the inevitable question: Why in the H ELL is she taking that frye out in public so early? She looked as if she literally rolled out of bed and came to the mall. Good God ladies, please please...for the sake of humanity, shower, shave, WASH AND COMB YOUR HAIR, put a tiny bit of makeup on or a little lip gloss or somthing. And women just can't understand why their husbands leave them after the kids come...just look in the mirror.

Fire

I get crazy aggrevated with people with strollers. They always walk down the middle of the sidewalk/aisle and expect everyone to get out of their way. And I have a special loathing of those double wide strollers. I think they should be illegal. They take up the entire width of a sidewalk or shopping aisle. And I'm sorry, I'm NOT going to be friendly and tell you your kid is adorable after you've just run me over with your freakin stroller.

Oh, and I saw "What not to Wear" when they did the mommy episode. They said there is NO excuse for not looking good. They even showed how to do your makeup in less than 5 minutes (some of the best info they've ever given). Granted, we've all done the "throw on some sweats and head out" - that's what hats are for, right? - but come on. How hard is foundation and lipstick?

Hey, I just gotta say women are doing the best they can. Society puts insane levels of pressure on them. They are now expected to run a successful career, AND raise children at the same time. So now they drag their kids anywhere they go, theatres, pubs, and MALLS like yours, because it's the only time they have for them.

It's a big problem in our "rush to red lights" society.

So all this pressure should excuse them from COMMON COURTESY? Because that's what it comes down to. If you bump into someone, you apologize. It is NOT automatically the un-childed person's fault. And if your KID runs into someone, apologize. It's not hard. And for the love of Pete, if you HIT ME with that damm stroller, APOLOGIZE. It HURTS. Don't just freaking giggle and say "oops!" I'm not amused.

I am SICK SICK SICK of parents (dads are included) acting like I should give way every time they drag their kids out in public. Teach them to stay with you. Push your stroller on one side of the aisle. I'm not asking for the moon here. Just common courtesy!
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I agree totally re child free, but I have to laugh a bit that fireandice was at the mall with her *mother*.

Lots of people (not just parents) seem to have lost their manners of late. Basic "excuse me" moments at the grocery store seem to go unnoticed. I say "please", "thank you", "excuse me", "ma'am" and "sir" reflexively. When you've been reared correctly and you have your priorities straight as an adult, this stuff comes reflexively. If you have to think about it every time ("duh...should I be polite this time, or is it too much trouble?...duh"), there's something wrong. It should be like brushing your teeth or putting on your seat belt...your reflexive of going through the day. End of story.

Of course, it's difficult to notice that the folks who've taken it upon themselves to raise the next (too large) generation seem to be the ones most devoid of these common courtesies. ("I've bred --- isn't that enough of a contribution to society? Why must I also be polite?"). Puh-leez. Um, because, Mom, just popping out the kid isn't a favor to society. Only if your kid becomes a decent human being is it a favor (which is why I think people should congratulate parents not at the moment of birth of their children, but maybe when your kid makes it to 30 successfully, as a fully functional, contributing adult). Yep, I'm a crazy dreamer...

We've lost that reflexive politeness habit, and we're the poorer for it. Manners are what prevent wars. Civility is on the wane, folks, as the population grows.

As one of my bumperstickers states: "Fewer humans --- more humanity".

Elise

bonsai: Great sticker! Would love that for my collection

Tbunny: Don't knock your head against the proverbial brick wall, Jordan13, who is probably only 13 years old, isn't even worth responding to, similar to pondlady's puzzleing bewilderment that a daughter and mom would...gasp...shop together at a mall!

I wouldn't go get a refill on paint looking the way some of these moms look. There's no excuse, and certainly no reason to be bitter at the world and rude to others because you're now several pounds heavier, smell bad and look like something the cat drug in because of a CHOICE YOU made <img src="/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />.

I've said it before however I feel it bears repeating: It all boils down to common sense. You either have it, or you don't. Lots of parents with it, even more breeders without it. The CHOICE is yours.

Fire

Hey Fire,

That sticker, plus my other one (which I love even more...it says "OVERPOPULATION: HOW DENSE CAN WE GET?") are *free*. All you need to do is send a self-addressed stampled envelope to this funny, crazy dude who runs this website:

http://www.geocities.com/tedtoal/index.htm

Have a swanky CF day!

Cheers

Elise

bonsai: outstanding!! Thanks a bundle. I am indeed having a swanky CF day.
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