BellaOnline Forums Beauty and Self Self Development Looking For Some Motivation/Inspiration

I had considered the possibility, but didn't want to be "labeled" that.

It wasn't until I was trying to get my gastric bypass surgery done that everything came to a head. For insurance purposes (and for my particular surgeon) you have to pass a psychological exam before having the surgery done. I scored a 95% on anxiety and 98% on rage (which is depression turned inwards towards oneself on the particular test I took). I broke down crying when I was given the results, because the psychologist nailed everything on the head.

I had to go through 6 months of therapy before I could be re-evaluated for the surgery. I am still under treatment for depression, and have since had my surgery. I have lost 80 pounds and like I said am doing things I never would have dreamed before. Things are not perfect and I still have terribly blue days at times, but I no longer have what I used to call the "bile-black" days where I couldn't get out of bed. <img src="/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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Lala, I agree with WBG's answer, especially--it could just be that you're in "overwhelmed" mode, too. You have a long list of changes you'd like to make, and then not doing the list kicks in yet another problematic dynamic in that you start feeling like a failure, and pretty soon you have this whole thing going where you look around, don't do anything, and hate yourself for it. Believe me, I've experienced this same thing, and the answer is twofold:

First, you have to equip yourself with the tools to handle yourself psychologically, whether it's self-help books, an online forum like this one, tactics you get from a life coach or counselor, or all of these. These tools give you methods you can put into action the minute you see yourself getting into a swamped or negative situation or even before, so you can prevent one from gaining hold of you (such as not piling up too much on yourself).

Second, feeling dissatisfied with or detached from life can be caused by a variety of actual physical issues, so it would also be good to examine your nutrition/diet, sleeping habits, and overall physical health. Depression in some people is actually a symptom of a vitamin/mineral deficiency, for example, or a lack of enough sunlight (I experienced this, called "seasonal affective disorder," when I lived in Missouri, and just turning on the lights made me feel energized and uplifted!).

At least you've taken a first huge step by posting here. We're all pulling for you! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Barbara

you seem to be fighting very well. Congrats.

Thanks everyone! All of your comments have been great to read. Lately I have been feeling pretty good. Not 100% but I'm feeling my stress level slowly coming down. There's been alot of changes in my life recently. But things are seeming okay right now <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Then again I have been very busy and haven't had much time to think about those things that bother me, but maybe that's the key! Keep busy! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

But thanks everyone who replied, you have no idea how it's helped <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

"Then again I have been very busy and haven't had much time to think about those things that bother me, but maybe that's the key!"

Absolutely. This is a profound spiritual concept. The Talmud says that inactivity or stagnation is like death because there is no point to every breath you take. When you are utilizing your potential there is purpose to every breath you take. Sometimes thinking and thinking about something is detrimental because you have veered off the path of activity and are viewing your world from the periphery - a strange sense of isolation develops as if you are not fully engaged in life.
Having said that it is important to be engaged in the right kind of activity. If its isn't, you may not get depressed or demotivated, but you will find yourself agitated by your position.

Yitzchak
souldiet.com

You don't lack motivation, it is simply a case of your motivation being limited. Apart from all the other reasons mentioned, the main issue here may well have something to do with your level of self-esteem.

When you have self-esteem, you're all the things you say you 'lack'. When esteem is low, you're where you are now. It is very easy to get labelled with a condition. The problem then, is that you run the risk of self-fulfilling - your beliefs become your reality.

Take steps to assess your level of self esteem, which I am convinced may well be the root of the issue. To help you, here are a few self esteem building activities you might find useful.

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Thank you Festival. I'm going to take a look at these and give them a shot. They look very interesting <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Many books I have enjoyed that helped me through years of unhappiness and struggles, were books written by Jim Rohn, John Maxwell, Chris Widener, and the one I am reading now "Your Best Life Now", by Joel Osteen. All these writers tend to address life, goals, dreams, motivation, inspiration, which helped me tremendously. Additionally, I ordered an eBook, which helped me in the above areas, but also helped me learn to really start journaling, which taught me how to address areas of my life that were making me feeled depressed, unmotivated and basically down on life. Just a thought, and I pray through all of these wonderful ladies who have answered your forum question, that it will help you see how truly special you are!! Sandy

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Thanks Sandy.. that was very nice of you. Everyone who has replied has given me something to think about!