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unfourtunatley when some people beccome parents they change for the worse,you did the right thing by ending the friendship as yes it did sound like it was beccoming toxic.


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If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
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I would be an exhausted one, who would die an early death. I looked after my friend's 11 month old for half an hour, I had to have a lie down afterwards because I had to literally watch him the whole time. After they left my husband said "thank god I'm having a vascectomy". (Now had it and all is well).

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I would be a bad strict parent.

I would be strict because my parents were. They would have a fixed (early) bed time, adult/appropriate behaviour expected in public, few "treats", they would not be "babied" and I would NOT pay for their college education.
I would be a bad parent because I would resent the time, money and energy they require. The child would sense this, and it would hurt them emotionally to know that their parent resented them - they would probably end up needing a shrink when they grew up! I also would have a HUGE problem faking interest in their artwork, school plays etc. Children's art is NOT appealing to me, so I would not want to put it up on the fridge, and I would fall asleep at their school play... All in all, a very bad mom.
I don't think my kids would like me... so I guess I won't have any!!! :-)

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I would be a bad strict parent.

I would be strict because my parents were. They would have a fixed (early) bed time, adult/appropriate behaviour expected in public, few "treats", they would not be "babied" and I would NOT pay for their college education.
I would be a bad parent because I would resent the time, money and energy they require. The child would sense this, and it would hurt them emotionally to know that their parent resented them - they would probably end up needing a shrink when they grew up! I also would have a HUGE problem faking interest in their artwork, school plays etc. Children's art is NOT appealing to me, so I would not want to put it up on the fridge, and I would fall asleep at their school play... All in all, a very bad mom.
I don't think my kids would like me... so I guess I won't have any!!! :-)


[color:"darkred"]Same here. [/color]


If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
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Yep, me too. I mean, my kids would prolly be like me...opinionated, stubborn, etc....and I couldn't deal with that!

I'd also be afraid I'd have a kid who was totally into different things that I was into/than I'd want them to be into. It would be hard enough sitting through dismal choir concerts and c-r-appy dance recitals (don't even get me started on the rant about kiddie dance recitals) and such...I can't imagine if I had a kid who got involved in something I REALLY didn't give a sh*t about or even downright disliked, like sports or something. Me sitting there spending my time freezing my @ss off to watch a [censored] kid version of something I absolutely hate even when it's done right??? Oh, HELL no! I couldn't do it. Totally could NOT. And the same goes for, what if I had a kid who was airheaded or really socially conservative or something? I'd go nuts. I couldn't deal with having to raise a person who had a personality type that I would not choose to associate with in a friend, to spend time with that person 24/7 and esp. to know they came from MY body and genes!!! How depressing.

That's prolly right up there high on my list of reasons not to have kids...I wouldn't be able to control what they'd be like, and I know I'd probably try. "no honey, you can't be a cheerleader and a member of Young People Who Love George W. Bush, here, play the cello and join the gay-straight alliance. I don't care if you hate it. Just do it." And the kid would hate me, and I'd hate the kid.

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I think I would be an okay parent. I know that there are things that I would do well, but there are also things that wouldn't be so great. I cannot tolerate crying or whining or disrespect and I would have a tough time not hurting a child if they misbehaved. I know that I would love them very much and that the maternal instict I do have would come out when needed.

Having said that, I also know that I get less patient when I am tired or stressed and since I have low thyroid, that is most of the time. I don't have the energy to take care of kids and I also have a bad back. How would I even be able to pick a baby up and rock it to sleep? Even though I might be a good parent, that doesn't mean I want one or should have one.

I think that when others say they think I would make a great parent, they are saying that to try and convince me that I should be one. And it somehow justifies their decision to have children. Does that make sense?

Anyway, even though there are some good things about me that would make me a good parent, I think the bad things out weigh the good. I would never want to hurt a child and I could see myself doing so at some time. That is a tough thing to admit, but at least I know this about myself and am choosing not to be a parent.

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