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[color:"487878"]This article is a bunch of B.S. Did you know women with careers are less likely to have children??! CRISIS! Let's write an op-ed piece about how awful it is to marry a career woman! (Of course that's just *part* of what this guy thinks is so bad about working women, but it's the part that stood out to me the most. I did like the rebuttal article, though.

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Aw, its a shame isn't it. He clearly has been dumped by a woman who was more intelligent and earning more than him. It's a poor reflection on him that he couldn't see the benefits of a wife with a good income who was more than eye candy at the office party.
I earn more than my husband and he is very happy about it, particularly spending it.

My husband begs to differ. I'm his sugar mama.*

I read an article once on a sociologial study of divorce rates. According to said article, either partner or both partners being more highly educated makes a couple LESS likely to divorce. This flies in the face of Mr. Chauvenist Pig.

Also, as far as being highly educated, statistics show that many more women than men are now graduating college and getting these careers -- the number of "career women" will soon eclipse the number of career men. It's happening in our generation, Aerolithe!

Ultimately, a marriage works out because you want it to, plain and simple. You can either work hard on the marriage to make it work out, or you can let it fall by the wayside and it will fail. Your choice.

One last point. My dear grandmother was a career woman -- a nurse -- in a day when it was very difficult to be a career woman. She and my grandfather were happily married for over 50 years until their recent deaths. Take THAT! HA!

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Wow, pity we can't send this gobshite back to the 1950s where he belongs!
He's making a lot of sweeping generalisations. Maybe he's had a bad experience? Or brought one on himself? (LOL)

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Sounds like a pretty insecure guy to me!

Hmm - I tend to agree with him on certain points. I make twice what my husband does -I just recently got this job - and it already causing stress in our marriage. My house is NOT dirty though! Can I make a pitch for all the ladies? Go to http://www.tomboytools.com and help support the career woman. I DO NOT work for this company I just think its a good one.

Actually, xantres, as much as I hate to say this, the validity of your statement on education and divorce rate's going to depend on the country you're talking about.

There are several current longitudinal studies on this topic as it relates to the U.S. that strongly indicate divorce rates increase when a woman has an education level higher than a man's. So in that vein, the poor delusional author here has a somewhat valid point. THere's a lot more that plays into this though like income. If the woman's earning about the same as the man, the difference in education doesn't hit that hard.

I guess you could say that in a household where a man expects the woman to have a traditional role and said woman has a career that takes her out of the house a major percentage of the time the house may be a little messier. But then, if you have a major career, you can likely afford to pay someone to come in and take care of that for you.

Many men still want that Suzy Homemaker as their partner and she's just not around much anymore.

Thankfully, my SO isn't one of those men. He's happy with a fair division of labor.

I have to say, I'm a little upset with the publishers of that little article. I can't believe they let it go being so one sided. We can all point fingers. what about the guy looking for a smart funny successful woman, than trying to turn her into his mother? And wasn't it common place for the successful career guy to steal a little nookie in days of old with his secretary, or leave his loving trusting stay at home wife for some younger hottie on the corporate ladder. Funny how all of sudden a man gets upset when the shoes on the other foot. I certainly don't condone the behavior, but I do believe he applies to the double standard only males understand. I also think the rebuttal article was pretty soft. I was a go-getter turned part-timer, and am a little upset with myself, but its not my husbands fault. And if you don't discuss the CF option prior to the marriage, you can't be surprised if you're on different pages after the big day. And its not the "career girl's" fault, if he's not comfortable in his own skin regarding the money. Is she feeling bad, or is he making her feel bad. Wow, I'd best stop, I feel the rambles coming on.

I reread the article and really it wasn't that bad. It's not so much "his" take on the topic. He's just regurgitating information from current socio-demographic studies. You know, the kind where they say "most" of "xx" people did such and such and make a big leap of faith that there's some sort of relationship there.