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There are lots of posts on here about being the negative aspects of being CF, the prejudices, beign irritated, so I thought it would be a good therapy if we thought of 5 positive things about being CF. Think of it as our promotional campaign for the next generation! Here's my attempt;

1. Can go out to dinner in nice restaurant at the drop of a hat
2. Never have to plan anything
3. Have been to New Zealand, Vienna, Edinburgh, Iceland, Prague and Cuba on hols this year, and am still not broke/depressed/stressed or on murder charges.
4. Can drive a 2 seater car with no roof, without worrying about airbags crushing childseats, or blowing the kid out the back of the car.
5. Will be spending all weekend asleep in the garden, between reading, drinking and watching husband burning food on the BBQ.

What a good idea! Here are my five:

1. Quiet (I teach all day and am grateful to come back to a quiet and peaceful house.)
2. Don't have to consider anyone else's needs but your own
3. Sleep in on weekends
4. Can devote lots of attention to husband
5. Did I mention it's nice and quiet?

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1. Disposable income to donate to charity, give to people in need, or spend frivolously.
2. Buy groceries for two only.
3. No diapers to buy (have you seen how expensive those suckers are?) or change.
4. Don't have to worry about finding a sitter whenever we need to go out anywhere, what school district we live in, or how to juggle kids and career.
5. It has been said before, but cannot be overstated: PEACE AND QUIET!!

There are so many more than this, of course, but I'll leave some for everyone else. Honest to goodness, I can't understand why anyone would want to give all that up to raise children!... But that's just me. <img src="/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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Brilliant idea, royalgala!
Here are my 5:

1- My house doesn't have to be child-proofed, which means i can have as many sharp edges as i want.
2- Even though my job isn't high powered, i still have a great disposable income which isn't committed to anyone but me.
3- All-night long sleep with nobody to wake me because they had a nightmare, or needed a drink, or to go to the bathroom..... (Hubby is fully house trained!)
4- If i want to adopt a pet, i don't have to consider whether it will be child-friendly.
5- Peace of mind. I'm only responsible for me, and if i have a day when i just need to lie in bed and not speak, i can do that!

Thanks for starting this thread RG, we definitely do need to celebrate the benefits of child-freedom!

Right now?

My boyfriend is asleep in peace while I eat my breakfast in peace! I am thinking about what to do on this glorious Saturday morning and am thankful that I don't have to yell at the kids to turn off the TV/get moving/have a shower/pack your drink bottles/clean your room etc etc.

Ahhhhh, bliss

1. we have the freedom to travel overseas often (even though it's scary, and i have to take anti-anxiety meds to get on the plane, lol)

2. fewer dishes to wash

3. get to entertain more

4. we have 2 music rooms in our home (1 for each of us) and 2 offices (again, 1 for each of us); i think our house is way too big for us though, so we might downsize someday

5. when i have a migraine, i can hide in the closet and not feel guilty that i'm not spending time with my kid

6. when we go out to eat, it's cheaper with just 2 people

7. we can do things on the spur of the moment

8. i don't have to miss work because my kid is ill or has a dentist appt or tried to burn the school down and there's a parent/teacher conference

9. we're different from others. sometimes i view that as a negative though (depends on my mood). but i'm starting to look at is as more of a positive lately. when i see my neighbors and my friends, they are all so much alike. yeah, there are times we stick out like sore thumbs, but there are other times when i dont' want to be like everyone else. they're boring.

10. i don't have to childproof my house. i keep my prescription meds where i can reach them. i keep my cleaning products where i can get to them easily. i don't have to lock my liquor cabinet.

there are more, but these are the ones i think of when i get sad about things (cf, but not by choice). and it perks me up usually. i really needed this post today. thanks a lot. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Oh yea, great topic:

1.) Playing music on my Bose System as LOUD as I want whenEVER I want.

2.) Taking scalding hot, ridiculously long showers.

3.) Being able to make love anywhere, anytime ;-).

4.) Not having to hide or share my sweet indulges.

5.) Knowing I'm not contributing thousands of horrible filthy diapers to the worlds' landfills.


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1. My SO doesn't have continual high blood pressure problems (they only crop up with the nieces/nephews are over).
2. We can pick up and go somewhere at the drop of a hat (well, mostly, after we call the dog sitter).

Umm... I have trouble after this... we still worry about kids (we have so many nieces/nephews) and the state of the world (said nieces/nephews are going to grow up some day ... what do they have to look forward to) and paying for college (we all kick in for the family college fund... hubby's the investment manager for this one and anyone in the family can tap in if needed) and whether or not Janey's going to pass the SAT... etc. We're a tight knit bunch. Still have to kepe the house somewhat childproof (so many mini-visitors) and keep the meds out of reach (the dog's bad about snatching things off counter tops).

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1) being able to read a book uninterrupted

2) being able to snuggle up on a saturday afternoon in bed with my DH for a siesta

3) being able to go out as and when we please and enjoy what we are doing

4) know that I can get into the house after work and just enjoy an hour of silent contemplation

5) know that I am being true to myself by knowing what makes me happy.