BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Aaaaaaaaaarrrrrgggggghhhhh!!!!!!!

I could scream with temper! Was just listening to a talk radio show here; they got an email from a young married woman in her 20s. She's been married 18 months and is coming under a lot of pressure to have kids. She wanted the host to start a discussion on the pros and cons of the childfree lifestyle. Well, you can guess what happened right???
The first two people who phoned in were childfree, and supported her in not having kids. After that, it was all downhill. The next guy said she was too young to be having kids, but he had one and said fatherhood was wonderful, and that she should have kids 'someday'. The rest were moos! If she didn't have kids, she'd be 'missing out'. It was wonderful to have kids that were your 'best friends' as well as your children. You should have your kids young, so you could 'grow up with them'. And finally, the warning note: have kids now, or you could end up like the last lady in her late 30s who has one child, is loving it and wants more. But fears that she's left it too late to conceive again.
So much for a balanced discussion on being childfree.
Aaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrgggghhhh!!!!!!
Sorry, just had to get that off my chest.

i'm surprised they didn't go into the whole "you're not a real adult" [censored] with her too. we get that a lot. and "you'll never know true love until you have kids." or "you'll never know God's love until you have kids." OMG! people can be so near-sighted. i guess they never did do the pros and cons, did they?

You're absolutely right holly; they didn't do the pros and cons! It should be so simple really:
If i don't try to persuade somebody to be childfree, they should do likewise and not try to persuade me that i should have kids.
There are so many great people out there who want to have children; so let them do that. And hope that they don't give the rest of us a hard time about not joining in!
Incidentally, the last call to the radio programme was from a lovely lady who'd had several miscarriages. She was so tired of being asked WHY she didn't have children. Nobody wants to go into gynaeological (sp?) details when they're having problems (or even when they don't?). I just felt for her so much; it really made me think about how insensitive people can be.
Enough rambling from me; i'm off for the weekend. Just one of the many benefits of being childfree i guess!

That has to be one of the "stupider" arguments I have ever heard! I would hope one is already grown up before they make the decision to have children.

(Sorry to step in here, the "AAAAUUUUGGGHH" titles always catch my attention. <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />)

[color:"blue"] Bella, you are welcome to stop and comment anytime. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Sounds like the radio station had a bunch of crude jerks call in. <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/wall.gif" alt="" /> [/color]

Waterlily, your "baby" is so cute!

I'd love to have another kitten, but my 3 grown cats have gotten very used to their territory...I'm not sure they would be willing to share. <img src="/images/graemlins/tongue2.gif" alt="" />

Hi Ladies,

I too am "cat people" and I do love all the kitty photos on this forum. Today is the anniversary of my one cat's passing. I am going to get some flowers to put on his gravesite. I have one other "baby" still with me and he is a grey Persian with a super personality. Enough of that back to the CF discussion...last time I check I made the right choice and certainly don't feel I am missing anything by being CF! <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I WANT A BABY!!! well at lest for a couple of hours then "mommie" can have her!!!! I'm not a cat person but I do love the pics of cats here too!!!

Summer6, Im' soo sorry to hear about your cat passing. I had a dog that passed about 3 months ago and i still miss him!!! but he was 17yrs old in people yrs so it was better to put Tigger down then to have him suffer...

[color:"Magenta"] Thanks, Bella Harmony. That isn't my cat, however. I googled kittens, and found this one to be just adorable. I love cats, but I would love to have a dog. [/color]