I am a step-father and I know this should be a stricly woman site but I feel that I would get a better response coming from a women than me asking Joe at the bar. That was a joke. Anyway, my wife and I were best friends in 1984 and after a year I finally got the nerve to ask her to go with me, but during the same conversation she told me she had to move to Florida from Texas. I never told her how I felt, until I found her seventeen years later in 2001 and still had the strong feelings for her. We have married since then, she has three kids 15, 13 and 7. I am still trying to cope with their attitudes and behaviors,but that is a different post. Well, my wife's Ex cheated on her when she was pregnant with their three child. And she later found out that it was going on for four years. In their divorce decree he stated that he was claiming the kids on taxes. We have tried to change it, but he refused to signed the papers, he says that he needs to claim them, but they live with us? They got divorced in Florida and she was only awarded $900 a month. They have been divorced for eight years now. My wife has ask for more child support, but he quickly changes the subject. She has asked for a copy of his tax return and he refused. We now live in Texas and he only cares to see the kids once a year and we normally take them to him, but he brings them back. He has married the "other" woman unknowning to everyone and the kids. They just return from their two week stay with him, my wife and I hated it. I feel that it is wrong for them to see her as a step-mother. He cheated with this lady four four years, she knew he had kids and a pregnant wife at home but she still did what she did. What will the kids think when they get older knowing that this is the woman that broke up their parents? I am doing my best trying to make ends meet and strech our paychecks. I bought a house where each kid has their own room instead of sharing. I try to give the kids more than I had...and they are not even mine, but in my heart they are. These kids were meant to be from me not him. It is a shame that their own father uses them for his own financial goals. It is tough being a step-parent.