Candy, I think you always have to sell -- whether it's your ideas, your skills, your own products. You are selling when you want Mexican and your husband wants burgers and you try to persuade him.
However, there are a ton of ways to earn money from home -- from telecommuting to having an in-home day care to pet-sitting to sewing to on and on, that are not typical "sales" jobs where you sell products.
Check out this link to the Bellaonline SOHO site for
Business Ideas. Many of the businessess profiled are great for one-person start-up ventures.
Essentially, if you want to make a living doing your own thing or being at home with your children, it is more and more possible and millions of women are doing it right now.
Good Luck!