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It is commonly believed that the woman suffers more after the divorce. Is this true? Or only a belief? Because men also get shattered after it. Sometimes i think that despite common belief women are emotionally stronger than men.

If there are kids involved, they suffer more.

Al

Well, being as I'm still of the opinion that in most relationships, the woman is more attached than the man is, and being as in most of the relationships I've seen fail, it has something to do with the man (his cheating or whatever)...based on that, I guess I could say yes. I suppose it really depends on why the relationship failed, though; obviously if she ran off with someone else, she's not suffering!

Another thing to consider is how each are treated by their friends and family after the divorce...in some cases I'm sure the woman may be blamed for not "holding the relationship together," may be more expected (and pressured) to find someone else, etc. But I doubt it's that sexist in all cases.

Being a divorced woman can sometimes hold a stigma that being a divorced man doesn't, when it comes to dating at least--a divorced man can be seen as a "challenge" for other women to try to get; a divorced woman can be seen as having baggage (though that probably has to do with the fact that usually the woman gets custody of the kids, so that automatically takes her off the radar for men who don't want kids).

A divorced man gets to keep his friends, a divorced woman often loses them, because she's seen as a threat by the females of the couples, who are her friends. I know, that in my own case, I sure knew, who my real friends were and they weren't many!

If children are involved.they suffer. I think a women loses out, often she has to bring the children up alone, so misses out on the company of other adults. Friends seem to disappear very quickly. Perhaps that is why women are stronger emotionally.

women should understand the agony of another woman. is this not strange that they also keep away from a divorced woman?
But I agree that this is a bitter truth.

Why don't men don't keep away from their divorced man friend?

I know, that in my own case, I sure knew, who my real friends were and they weren't many!


Oh yes, isn't it interesting how these things happen! When my ex and I split up, I found out who my true friends were--i.e. who were not willing to automatically believe he was squeaky-clean, who was willing to be there for me...and those friends came from some surprising places, let me tell you (meanwhile the ones who were a bit less than stellar also came from some surprising places).

My X is a doctor and a few of my friends stayed away from me, because he had helped them a few times getting an appointment with a colleague specialist, so they reckoned he was more valuble to them then me! So much for friendship!

define 'suffering', and justify what is considered to be 'more' or 'less'.

Only a spiritual Guru can answer this.