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Oh, I am a TOTAL idiot for kitties and puppies and animals in general. Human children? Meh. But hand me a kitten and you'll think my brain dribbled out my ears by the way I carry on. It's ridiculous. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks doglover! I hate to sound conceited (but for all of us!), but I really believe that the smarter a person is, the more they struggle with the decision to have kids..I mean, if you are rational person, how could you ignore all of the negative consequences of having kids? I asked my friend who does want kids that question, and she flat out told me that she tries not to think about that stuff!!

Ug. Anyway, this is my favorite spot on the internet!!

I don't necessarily believe that it has to do with how smart you are because I have a friend who is a lawyer and so she is pretty smart, but she had kids because her husband wanted them and she was tired of working and so she thought having kids would be easier than working. Of course, now she realizes how much work it is, but at least she enjoys being a Mom and is not one to complain about it. It was actually refreshing to hear her talk about her experience and to realize that even if it is tougher than you thought, it doesn't mean it is then end of the world or that you stop being who you are. I think most people just do not take the time to look at everything that is involved and all they see is the Kodiak moments. There are smart people, dumb people, rich people, poor peole and all inbetween that have kids that maybe shouldn't have.

I cannot believe your friend said that she tries not to think about that stuff! How could she not think about it? The tough stuff is 90% of raising kids and if she doesn't think about it and prepare for it, she is going to be in for a huge shock and it will make parenting that much tougher. I hope everything works out for her, but I am not holding my breath <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Like you, this is my favorite spot on the internet too and I am so glad that I found it this week and that I now have friends that are like me, even if it is just through the internet <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hiya, I am 35, married for 14 years to Dh who is 42.

We have 2 dogs and 1 kitty.

We own 2 homes and hope to buy a couple more so we can retire early.

We work for the railroal, same company, union jobs.

I also am into craft hobbies.

Hubby likes to fish, dirtbike, surf, snowboard and dive.

We are CF by choice, and have permanent meaans of BC!!

Hi there, I'm 30, my husband is 32, we have been married 11 years with no kids. We have 2 cats who are our furkids. Before we married my husband said he didn't want kids, I thought he'd change his mind as he got older. But he didn't. I change my mind all the time about wanting kids, but financial reality means it's probably best for us not to. Plus my sister-in-law has not been the best advertisement for having kids, it's kind of put me off!