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Do what I do---have parties for yourself! I've had roomwarming parties, housewarming parties, regular birthday parties, a big 40th birthday party, and parties for no reason at all other than to have people over and have fun. If you feel (as I do) that as childfree people have been stiffed out of presents because we haven't had any kids, have yourself an "I'm Not Having A Baby" Shower as I plan to do later this year! Instead of registering at Babys R Us, register at YOUR favorite stores for stuff YOU want. Trust me, people will be happy to buy them for you!

Candy, what a clever idea! My husband and I have no children. Neither of us felt compelled or had that deep desire to have a child. I was adopted and know that is one reason I never felt the natural instinct to want children. But what I do enjoy is having pets!! They are like kids at times. Bless you all and have a fab day

Summer6

[color:"blue"] You can also register gifts for your pets and have a party where you/them recieve them. (and a party to celebrate the pets in your life. <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> [/color]

Slow day today, so I wanted to drop in to say hello to all the CF persons out there. Hope everyone has a great weekend.

I experienced this at my former job. I graduated from college the same week that my unmarried pregnant co-worker had her baby shower. And everybody fussed over her and got excited. Not ONE person said a thing about my graduation, even though 4 years of college is much much harder and a bigger accomplishment than getting pregnant (for most people).

I felt slighted.

[color:"blue"] Maybe those co-workers have no idea what a "REAL" accomplishment is like. They've probaly all f*cked up their lives, except you, haven't.

Also, anytime someone ends up pregnant, people with kiss *ss with them. Even if they are the biggest wh*re on earth. It doesn't seam to matter, however, how sad.

Congratulations on being college educated. [/color] <img src="/images/graemlins/fish.gif" alt="" />

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Have a "No Baby!" shower!

Great idea! Why not celebrate that you, also, are living your life the way you want? Hell, I'd show up with gifts of all sorts of stuff that one can use when one doesn't have to worry about kids--fine china (no worrying about kids wrecking it), sex toys (no worry about kids finding it or walking in), expensive chocolate (no worry about kids wanting to eat it)...

I keep saying that since I'm never getting married, I need to have a "non-wedding"--after all, why should I get shorted out of people giving me stuff to start a household just because I'm doing so alone rather than with someone else??? I don't see why I should be punished for my choice or treated differently... (besides, I could argue that since I'll have just one income rather than two, I need the help more! Plus they know they'll never have to worry about the gifts being returned because I'll never divorce myself!)

[color:"blue"] Right on! [/color] <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hi Independant Woman!

This may sound wierd coming from a Mom, but believe me, the showers aren't worth the pregnancy! (Plus the presents aren't for you anyway, they are for your baby, you really don't get anything out of it) <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I had terrible complications with my pregnancies, leading up to (finally) a hysterectomy. My last pregnancy I spent 3 months on bedrest - which sounds great, but actually results in horrible migraines and reflux. No party is worth that. Only if you really want a child do you willingly go through these things. And then we won't discuss labor! <img src="/images/graemlins/tongue2.gif" alt="" />

Plus once the baby is born all the attention that was on the Princess Mommy is *SWOOSH* - Gone! Baby is here, and the Mom is no longer needed, she was just the incubater - maybe if she nurses she retains a little importance, but that's about it.

For those of us that have chosen to be Moms, we are willing to go through with all of this. But I just want you to know - there's not all that much to be jealous over. The movies and TV shows glam it all up, and what you see in public looks great, too. But (as we all know) in private, nothing is ever as pretty!

Enjoy the fact that you have chosen not to have children. Have jewelry parties, put lots of breakable things around your house - and never have to move them except to dust! <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Go for a massage whenever you feel like it - w/out having to arrange for a sitter. There are great advantages to both sides. You just have to figure out where all of yours lie!