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I've now been cheated on for the second time around feel like [censored] yet again, I met my new fella who I thought was genuine but turned out like all the rest a lying cheating bastard, are there any genuine men left in this world or do I just attract the sort who use me like a doormat.

With a link to a site like that as your signature, and the kind of language you use - I guess there's a possibility that you might be giving out the wrong signals....
Remember that what we attract we project in the first place.... maybe you need to address your own self-worth and self-esteem, instead of pinning the fault on others.
Nobody is in charge of your Mind, Body and Spirit but you. What happens to you is not always under your control. What your response is, and how you react, to it, how you use and channel your experience, and how you permit it to affect you, is under your control, and nobody else's.

There are definately some good ones left, don't give up yet.
& if a bloke is a cheat, not honest etc then he's the one with the problems & is likely to end up alone.

Karen, I find myself agreeing with Alexandra. It took me many years to learn that I was a "looser magnet". In the process of maturing a great deal, I cleaned up my act; so to speak. I rarely curse; and when I do it is usually a slip of the tongue. And I don't know how you dress; but I also found that as unfair as it may seem, how we dress has a alot to do with the men we attract. I can't say I dress modestly at all times; because in the privacy of my home I don't need to worry about it. But when I go away, I like to dress in a way that will not draw unwanted attention. I like to think if I were still single, and dating, I would still be the person I am today. It is much nicer being treated with respect. I deserve it.

And so can you, if you want it.

Also, please also in the future, keep in mind this sight also draws younger people. My hope is that the content on here can be open and honest without being off color.

Thank you.

Alexandra you don't even know me so you can't judge me, as for my self worth & all that religious clap trap I am really not interested, I happen to live in the real world not the imaginary bubble you obviously live in.

I can tell you I probably have a lot better morals than plenty of people who wouldn't dream of swearing.

As far as dress: part of the reason I probably DON'T attract the opposite sex is because I don't dress all cutesy and slutty. Even nice guys seem to pass up the females that don't show skin.

First off, I'd like to say I'm so sorry you were cheated on.Not all guys are like that(I'm not and plenty of other guys) It's the choice of guys you're going after or perhaps, could be the place you find these type of guys.

Just don't give up, Best of luck to you.

Karen, not all guys are like that. Not all the fishes in the sea are ugly like that. So to say all guys are cheaters is insult to al the guys out there who have been loyale to their partner. I was at a pharmacy yesterday and saw this old couple. The wife was picking out a drink for the husband and he kept staring at her and she asked him why he kept staring and he said "honey ur so good to me. I love you with all my heart" I stood there and chuckled and said " look at you two love birds" She turn to me and said "honey we've been married for 63 years" I saw them walking out hand in hand and i stood their wit a lot of admiration.