BellaOnline Forums Family Siblings 'Step-siblings" Romantically Involved - Your say

Sounds like more and more individuals are faced with this delema. It would be helpful if those that have had sucesses or failures with this relationship dynamic would add some of their advice to these love struck step siblings.

it seems like no one has advice for us .. hopefully everything will work out for all of us.

I wish I could be of more help but I'm a minority. My parents are still together and I'm still with my husband. So no experience here.

Well Help has arrived, thanks to the Step Parenting Editor. Please see the link below on her latest article regarding this very issue.

http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art23429.asp

I read the article and I still believe that it's the people's judgements and reactions (that typically stem from insecurity) are what complicates the stepfamily not the relationship itself. I don't think it's right or even moral for someone to impose outside interference on anybodys relationship unless there are instances of physical or extreme verbal abuse is occuring. I also feel that she made too much of a big deal about how each member of the family should label each other.
She did state at the end that the relationship could work and even help the family dynamic to become stronger. That I can appreciate.

the article was okay but it basically only discussed marriage and what would happen. It didnt really talk about the problems that a step-sibling couple faces before marriage..which is what most of us need

Sundreams104 if your not looking at this relationship as the one with a future then I suggest you forget about it.

Relationships are complicated enough without adding to it and your immaturity will only bring heartache to your parents.

no its not that, its just that to even get to the marriage part, most of these couples need to face the before marriage problems (which everyone in the forum seems to be facing), which i think is pretty tough.

What I am trying to say is. Figure out if you want to live through the marriage issues of this type of relationship before you decide to continue.

Marriage is hard. Every morning I wake up and decide to love my husband. That's right, decide to. The feeling of love can wear thin after 8 years and the problems associated with living together and creating a life together quickly overshadow the giddy love. Life gets in the way, even if you try not to let it, work, kids, friends, and family all take its tole on a marriage. So every morning you have to make a decision to love your partner no matter what.

Every relationship is different and will take a lot more than advice on an anonymous forum. Talk to someone you trust, a pastor, a councellor, a parent. Someone who has experience with marriage. It's always a good idea to talk to someone who has a failed marriage to find out the pit falls and the heartache as well as someone who has a long successful marriage, like a grandparent.

Regardless who your marrying it is always a good idea to go into a serious relationship with your eyes wide open.

I've gone looking for help for you again.

Keep checking the step family, relationship and dating forum for help.