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I think we should all come to the party Eddie!

We'll just all have to chip in on the airfare from France for Alexandra. <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Make sure you have LOTS of good, pumping music! Black-eyed Peas would count, and you can throw in some Shakira to really get groovy. - We have many forum members taking bellydancing - wouldn't THAT cause a gossip fit! <img src="/images/graemlins/devil.gif" alt="" />

Michelle, I stand up and applaud you - on all counts...!!
I'll go economy...I'm not proud!!

let the fun commence -

let's party!!

All round to Eddie's pad!! <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

A party would be a good idea no doubt.

Well, I just got back from vacation and filed for divorce yesterday. I changed my phone number at the house because someone continues to call and hang up.

I had dinner with my neighbors last night and I was asked if I wanted a drink. I said, "Soda would be fine." My spouses friend said, "You don't want a beer." I said, "I haven't had a drink since January 17th, the last time we went out." She said, "I find that hard to believe." I said, "Why do you say that?" She said, "I was told you go to the bar every night and get drunk." Someone is still lying.....

I just wrote that someone an e-mail asking them to stop lying about me and I straightened out the neighbor. She had the audacity to ask me for keys to the house "just incase". I said, "Incase of what, my spouse drops by and you want to let her in?" She just walked out of the room.

People are very funny.

It's a shame that you have to be on the defensive...And unfortunately, when it comes to mutual friends, you're going to have to be cautious and even on a back foot... It's an awful thing to start mistrusting people, but in situations like this, sadly this is often the case....

hang in there Eddie....

Yeah, I can't trust my neighbors now. It is really sad and I'm very concerned for them because our friendship will never be the same. Good news though, as of tomorrow, I'm filed and she will be served by the end of the week.

Splat! Biff! Ker-pow!!

There is nothing better than a Batman TV reference.

Well, things are going OK. My spouse wanted to meet this morning so I could give her the mail and then she didn't show. I was [censored], but oh well. I just want her to get it. She is finally going to come by and pick up her stuff from the house this week, so I'm very pleased with that.

I have noticed though, now, she is getting very mean towards me, it sucks.

The guilty will often offload their guilt onto the shoulders of their 'Victim' and transfer fault and responsibility onto 'their' shoulders to avoid feeling and taking it themselves...they will think, say and do anything to justify their actions - anything at all to stop them having to lug it around themselves.

Don't rise to the bait. Give her no justification, and always always be polite, civil, courteous and dignified.
And always have a witness.

When she comes round, have someone there with you. This is vital.

Hi, Ladies.

Well, I meet up with my spouse yesterday to give her the mail and informed her I filed for divorce.

I first told her the last six years have been the best six years of my life. Then, I informed her I have known about her relationship with the other man since late January and collected evidence during her time at home. She informed me that nothing physically has happened between them. I then gave her a snippet of the information I gathered and she confirmed the information to be true.

She then said, I haven't had any physical contact with him and I've never met up with him. I said, Yes, you did and you know it can't you be honest with me about that and she didn't deny it, so affirmation is confirmation in my book.

She was not happy at all about me filing or the fact I have collected evidence to prove the emotional affair. Honestly, I believe she doesn't understand what an emotional affair is and she believes affairs can only be physical.

I cannot tell you how much weight was lifted from my shoulders having finally let her know that I have been collecting evidence all this time and I know of her affair. As odd as it sounds it was very liberating.

Hi, Ladies, just an update and another thank you.

She understands now what she has done and she looks miserable. She has been nice enough to ride the same train as I do everyday now, but I've been just ignoring her for the most part, though we did speak once.

I was just given some interesting information about the man she is/was having the affair with, turns out he just got engaged a couple of weeks ago which happens to be coincide with the time I told her about the evidence. Interesting, I think.