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Lucky's got it...it's no fun not being taken seriously because I look like a stupid naive highschooler (and part of the reason I might not attract guys is that the ones my own age look at me and think I'm jailbait). I feel like photocopying my driver's license, blowing it up huge, and putting it on a t-shirt, possibly with the words "I'm not as young as you think." Maybe then people wouldn't look at me like I'm a little kid or call me a "little girl" or call me "honey" and "sweetie" in a semi-condescending voice...

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youre right its not fun.. and people dont take you seriously either....but when something is said they look at you like you dont have a basis for saying it..after all they think what does this young person know..and then ask your age and their mouth drops and they say i would of never thought that...but i understand about not attracting guys a certain age.....all i attract are older guys who want young girls because theyre going through some midlife crisis and want to prove they still have it....

My husband and I have been married for almost 6 yrs. In the earlier years of our marriage, we always thought that we would have children. After finding we had some feritlity issues we decided not to have children. It was kind of a tough decision for me. I have been raised that if you are married, you have kids. I do wonder if down the road I will regret that I will never be called "Mommy." What is harder, that I have about 3 or 4 friends that have children and or pregnant...I swear that's all they talk about. I hear about blood pressure problems, back pain and whatever else is going on at that time. Never once do they stop to say, "what's new with you, Jen?" It is annoying and I want to scream! I feel like I am not there, or they just aren't interested in what I am dealing with. They don't seem to care that I have gotten a new job, that I like ..etc. I am bothered and frusterated by the whole thing. AUUGGRRHH!

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"Moo Brain" I have never have heard that before! But I like it. It should be "Life revolves around me brain!"

Hello
I am married and do have a child. My husband didnt want one, but now wouldnt change a thing. The only thing is that the world is such a different place from when I was growing up, it is really scarry.

'Tis a far, far better thing to regret not having children than to regret having them.

Exactley right

Oh, man. If I had a quarter for every parent who either said "I didn't want children either [or my pregnancy was an accident...] but now I wouldn't change things for the world" or "parenting is so hard blahblah, I can't stand it blahblah, I get no sleep blahblah, I have no money blahblah....but I love my kid so much and wouldn't give it up for anything!!!"

"I wouldn't change a thing!" and "but I just LOOOOVE my child and would never give her up!" are usually code for "I am SO bloody miserable and wish I were anywhere but here but I have to sound like I'm enjoying this and say I love my child and wouldn't go back to childlessness if I could, but in reality I wish you would please kill me now."